“Now I need to tell my mother to get a HIV test done.
I just got my terrible news...I am positive" and this
implies that my mum certainly has it too. I am Lucia, an only child who lost her
father at age seven. My mother re-married when I was fourteen years old and it
has been more destructive than supportive to us. My step father is a building contractor
while my mother is a diplomat. As a diplomat, mum was always away. She stays
briefly and is away for long leaving our house help, Etteh, myself and her
husband alone.
While away, my step father, whom I now see as an
infected he-goat would start making passes at me. He would grab me at every
opportunity, call me into their room for errands at odd hours...and after a
while, with several threats, he over-powered me...he forced his way
through...and I lost my flower to my step-father. Whenever mum is around, I
make attempts to confess to her but she would always postpone our conversation..."because
of her busy schedule", I discovered I started having feelings for him, and
I started caring for my "dad" until one day when he sent me to his
room as usual for the usual purpose, as I cleared the table, a paper fell off,
I picked it up and guess what...It was his HIV result...He is positive. While I
felt sorry for him and tried holding my scream, It dawned on me that my grave
is already being dug.
...I have confirmed and yes, I have it too.
Finally after two months away, my mum shows up, by
this time, my “dad” and I are fully aware of our status and there is a big
dilemma. My mum finds out and she hurriedly did a test and found out she was
negative. Now she is pointing hands of accusation at me, calling me a bad daughter
that has stolen her joy and brought her shame. How is this my fault?
When I did everything possible to tell her but she
would not listen and her husband was also threatening to tell my mum that I am
the one seducing him if I don’t allow him have his way’’
‘’I am deeply offended by all men and I will spread
the "sexual good-news" to all of you. In short, anyone that comes
close would get his share’’
‘’How else could I have done it?
I don’t know what to do, I need help. She wants me out
of her life and my step-father is claiming he got it from me. Please what
should I do?’’
My people, you have read it all. My quick advice, don’t
go holding anyone that is not your wife let alone allowing the devil trick you
into sleeping with them. “E no dey show for face o”
What is your take on this issue?
Parenting gone wrong?
At fourteen and above, is she still naïve?
Any precautions?
