Monday 23 June 2014

WHERE I STAND WITHOUT PRE-MARITAL SEX


By the time you are reading this, we must have wedded. But first, read my wedding day Pre-marital Sex Revelation. Olalere is my name

 

When the Officiating Minister asked if anyone knew why we should not be wedded, my heart skipped. I had seen two of my ex's and they did not quite smile...it looked like they had come to see the "unfortunate lady" who has agreed to say yes to me.
Temisan and I dated or courted as the case may be for close to a year and it brought out the best in us as we hope to see the rest in marriage.               
Well, I write this with a very deep sense of guilt. I knew a very good reason why we should not marry, but the question was not directed to me and who in his right senses would disrupt his own wedding? So I kept it quiet believing that when we got married, things would iron out themselves.
I had an accident some years ago that almost claimed my life. It left me alive yet almost dead...as I now have one testicle and my manhood also has several cuts...I am scared I may never satisfy a woman on bed, let alone father children...But I couldn't bring myself to telling my fiancé all these...for fear of loosing her and of course the overwhelming irreparable shame.
Now, I  turn my anger to the church for teaching people not to have sex before marriage. If we had attempted it like I did with the other ladies,-who walked away at that point- we would have known our fate. I even tried to touch her, she would just flee as if I were a leper claiming this and that...Church talk, always far from the reality...
Time is ticking off and I await that moment of truth when she will have to see me in my naked and deeply uncertain state...
So, my question to you @bondbetter and your readers is to tell me what you think about sex before marriage…

Isn't it okay to have a few rounds when the couple are sure they would be getting married?
What should I do? My wife is going to find out in few hours time and I am very sure she would not like it.
 

 




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Monday 9 June 2014

SON BEATS FATHER NEAR-DEATH TO RESCUE MOTHER

"Ken my son, Just go on your knees and say sorry, its the magic word" my mother advised. "Why should I say sorry when I am not actually guilty, I asked her too?
My parents never let us have peace while we we're growing...one of those turbulent and dramatic days of theirs, they got into a fight as usual and my father was pouncing ruthlessly on her... He had a belt which he used on her bare back and then went for a grip on her neck...trying to suffocate her...I got scared and made attempt to defend my mother...at first,
I thought it would end as a mere squabble but I was rudely shocked when my father tried squeezing life out of her...he tried choking her. I rushed at him, shoved him off and he faced me...We started fighting...


I FOUGHT MY FATHER DEFENSIVELY FOR MY MOTHER'S SAKE.

As we struggled, I pushed him very hard...he fell and got up limping.          

To my greatest surprise, my mother turned against me...she started shouting at me, "why would you do that? "Why would you fight your father?" My mother raged amidst her tears..." I did it for you Mama, you would have been killed if I didn't stop him..." While we bantered, my father shows up, boiling in anger...he says "Park your things and get out of my house you bastard...even your mother can follow you"

I have not seen my father for over two years now, I visit my mother at her shop when I feel like and I also heard that my father told my siblings that he has disowned me.

So far, I understand my action has availed my mother relative peace; at least there are no more physical assaults on her... and now she wants me to apologize to him. Truth is that I don't feel any guilt. I am not sorry either...why should I apologize? I am really confused...what should I do bondedhome? I don’t believe in apologizing when you are not guilty.
 
What's your take on this issue?
Is an apology well-worth it?
Should his mum have turned against him?
 
 
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