Watch your Ego, It can become a Killer

“I have done everything to pacify him, I have told him how sorry I am, I have almost cried out my eyes, I have lost sleep and I no longer have an idea what peace means or stands for, Sir, that is why I have come to you right here in your office, not to come and report my husband but to seek your assistance in helping me plead with him… my husband and I have not been in talking terms since four months sir… if I say a word to him, he doesn’t respond, when I serve his meal, he doesn’t eat, when I get in bed, he gets out” She breaks down in tears… these are the agonizing words of a frustrated Esther to her husband’s boss. Jude is her husband on whom all these allegations are being made.

Baffled, windswept and eager to help in his own way, Oga commandeered Jude into his office and to his greatest surprise, Jude was raved at the sight of his wife…”what are you doing here, you this woman? Wont you just leave me alone?” he reached for a folder filled with documents and splashed it on her…and walked away….it was a mean encounter. Jude’s boss got the dumbness of his life…all he managed to say was “Jude, do you realize this might cost you your job,? Jude come back here, come back here…”Madam, just go home, I will talk to him, everything would be okay. He assured. Jude came after she had left to tell his Boss that he was no longer angry but needed her to suffer a bit so that she would learn her lessons squarely…a position his boss warned against.

How they got here…

Approximately four months ago, Jude returned from work with a cantankerous face, claiming he just had a hot argument with his boss over salaries. He told Esther how his boss had announced to them that despite their hard work, salaries would not be paid for that month owing to dwindling sales and perhaps the next few months would not be paid as well if sales don’t look up. He also told her how he cannot just walk away from a job he has put in so much and with great prospects ahead of him…Esther calmly assured him how that wouldn’t be a problem, the family can run on her own income until his company pays them up fully…”please cheer up my darling, is that why you are looking so angry and hungry?”…

In three months really, Jude did not finance the home. Esther stood up to it as she promised, though painstakingly, but love covers all and marriage is for better for worse…she had to do extra hours at work and even took a loan from her colleague to cater for the home…this phase had just ended when one day, Esther changed her bag and did not remove the keys to her shelf at the office and her inhaler…she had to go back home to get those items. As she entered the house, she heard her hubby’s phone ringing…”today is World Couples forget day” she said to herself, reached for the phone, she didn’t pick the call, took it and thought of how to reach her husband to meet her up or something…when a text message dropped, innocently, she opened it. It read

“Judeyy, you are still as foolish as you were back then, thinking you can still get in between my laps, well,thank you for the money, I never had any surgery, I was never sick. I just needed to get something out of you for dumping me the way you did. Don’t bother trying to reach me, I am far away as you can see from the number” mmmmuah mmmuah”    

Esther drove straight to Jude’s office, threw the phone at him, and in the heat of things, slapped him.

Where they are now…

Esther is dead

The shame was so much for both of them especially Jude. While being egoistic and feeling correct about him spending his money any how he wanted, he decided to make his wife suffer a bit before accepting her apologies for slapping him and now coming to his office for further drama. She has been begging for the sake of her marriage, keeping all blames aside, Jude decides at this point to put his feet on the ground on making decisions unilaterally and no matter what he must have done, his wife should not raise her hand at him…

How Esther Died

With the four-month lasting apologies ongoing, the bright loving Esther have become a shadow of herself, once you see her, you see her troubles…she has become obviously sad…on this very day she visited Jude’s office for further apologies…on her way back home, as she drove and cried, she had an attack…an asthmatic attack…she reached for her phone and started calling Jude…Jude would not pick any call coming from her, not especially on a day like that one. He sat there staring at the phone…She called and called and called and called…until she managed to drive her car into the garage…she tried to type a message…”my inhaler pls” she couldn’t send it before the cold hands of death caught up with her… Curiously, about an hour later, Jude decides to check his wife, at least she can still come in and sleep…. She was gone.

People, what went wrong?

Is this an ego issue?

Did she overstep with the slap?

What is the best way to resolve issues between couples?

How long should these issues last?

Please…this left me sad…

IF YOU ASK ANY OF THESE QUESTIONS, A LADY MIGHT WALK AWAY…

The evening was going great with the Chinese restaurant thing, the jazz music on the background and of course the wonderful meal…something within assured me that Derrick was going to propose tonight. We have gone through all the normal snapping of selfies, feeding each other, stolen pecks and even seating on his laps to steal a quick kiss and all that…For once everywhere was calm and we kind-of focused for a while…My heart was already melting away…all he needed to do was just ask me and my YES would fill the air…

As I anticipated, he began. “Laura, these few months have been my very best, I have seen love as I have never seen before, in-fact, you make me feel like a butterfly with wheels in its heart. Everything about you just makes me wanna… Laura, I brought you out here so I can ask for your hand in marriage, I have a diamond ring here with me”…at this point I was almost screaming YESSS... Then he continued, “ I have little restrictions, there are some things I would like to know about you…I mean, we have spent time together brothering and sistering… I just need to ask you some questions before I proceed” I screamed “restrictions”? How? Why are you having any restrictions when I am right here to answer all your questions or at least give you some clarification” okay then, that’s good… I will just go ahead and ask you since you won’t mind” he bragged

I never knew I had invited trouble…Derrick started with the questions…

1.       Are you a virgin?

2.       If yes,…I just can’t believe it. But if no, who deflowered you and how did it happen?

3.       How many boyfriends have you had before meeting me?

4.       How many of them, in short, how many guys have you slept with?

5.       Have you ever had an abortion?

6.       Are you still in touch with any of your ex-boyfriends…?

By the time he was about going for the 7^th question, I was already at the door, angry and almost cursing…to worsen matters, my friends back home are of the opinion that I should have answered his questions, after all they are just questions and they are already in the past…they reminded me of how old I am now and that I may have just lost a golden opportunity at getting married…

Please what was I suppose to do? Start answering….shouldn’t my past be in the past?

Why do guys ask such questions…

Please share and educate Derrick and Laura

WHAT YOU SHOULD FEAR MOST WHEN YOU LOOSE YOUR PHONE…don’t be a victim.

And…finally, the leave comes to an end. Call it writers block or black page… I must confess I experienced something close to that… Yours truly was actually busy writing some “grattificio” . I decided to take a break from the “charifficios”, if you decode me. I am hereby sorry for the unannounced sojourn.. I am back and back for good. What I am about to share may not really have direct bearing on you, it might on someone you know…just share the news… so you don’t wait until you are the victim.

WHAT YOU SHOULD FEAR MOST WHEN YOU LOOSE YOUR PHONE…don’t be a victim.

 

At a bus-stop, I saw this young lady crying and rolling on the ground, surrounded by some other ladies and a guy, they were all passing a phone among themselves, once the phone is passed and the person looks at the screen, she screams and puts her hand on her head and then passes it on. It looked like trouble. They tried to console the lady but by this time, she was acting insane. She was screaming helplessly like someone who just confirmed they had Ebola and HIV at once. So that I wont be left out, I was forced to take a closer look. On getting there, they had a MAJOR ISSUE.

 

She had lost her blackberry and as if that wasn’t enough, the guy who stole or found the phone decided to mess her up. In the missing phone, she has over fifty nude pictures of herself and a man, not her husband, kissing romantically. The fellow decided to upload these nude pictures of her on her facebook wall, twitter and her instagram. NUDE PICTURES OF HER AND HER BOBO, while her husband is hustling in far away South Africa. In less than a minute, her other phone began to blare with numerous calls from friends and family who had seen the abomination. At the point she realised the damage, she was damaged…

 

The whole scenario dawned on me that her husband, all her facebook friends, their friends and their friends friends , her followers on twitter and the instagram community has been fed to her unholy nudeness. This is disaster. As a telecoms expert, I decided to wade in. At least I offered a quick and temporary solution. I told her to call customer care and request that the blackberry service be terminated. I don’t know how that played out though.

 

Now, lets us put this on a scale…aside the fact that this lady was nude with another man, not her husband, hasn't it become almost legal and normal for people to keep nude pictures of themselves in their phones? With the level of nudity that is available on social media and television, is it not gradually  melting into a common tradition? what is it with the need to be nude even from supposed decent looking people? 

In many situations, the ladies are often more guilty of the nude saga... some would just say they are going nude because that is what men want, some would say it is in a bid to look beautiful and accepted. Where are we headed really...is any lady justified going nude just because she needs to be acceptable by any man?

 

So, men, do you really like the women half-dressed or nude at worst? I have thought of it, how would a woman walk on the streets and go to the office almost half naked just to attract another woman? yes, they might in very extreme cases, but this trend of soft nudity is a general one now, a fact that justifies their claim on men... Lets get answers...  

Have you ever snapped a nude picture, perharps with just an innocent mindset?

Why do people snap nude pictures in the first place?

Is it even wrong to snap a nude shot?

If you were her husband, what would be your reaction?

When a woman decides to snap nude picture with another man, what does this imply?

 

Kindly check yoour phone now…don’t be too confident.                  BE SURE.  

 

 

TEMPTED TO TOUCH...all but one

Please accept my sincerest apology for the break in flow... I owe you and as the Lanisters would say, "A lanister always pay his debt" I will also pay you what I owe. The break was to enable me set in motion a veritable journey which will arrive destination very soon. Rest assured when it happens, you would be first to know.

 

Many have reached me requesting for a completion of the TELEPHONE HEADLOCK saga. I promise that would be laid to rest in no time.

 

Meanwhile, Jude is in a tight corner and he needs our advice. He just got a real employment after six years doing active menial jobs...now he has got something to call a job, a job in his field of study. He qualifies as an Industrial Maintenance Engr. and he has gathered a lot of experience in the past six years of field work. The job requires him servicing heavy duty machines, replacing damaged parts, procuring newer versions of some of them and giving management detailed report of the status of the machines. Enthusiastically, he goes about his job daily until one day when one of his colleagues told him he is being too plain to management. "How do you mean too plain?” Jude asked.

 

"You no wake up"...Kris told him. If you continue like this, you no go fit buy car in five years, you think say na my salary I take dey survive for this company?" In confusion, Jude says “Oga Kris, just come out straight, I don't understand you”

I took a look at it truly and It dawned on me how these guys whom we all got recruited same day have rapidly moved ahead of me. Their wealth just keeps increasing while I seem okay with my simple, stable salary- earning growth...it all made sense to me now. They had been boycotting company jobs, inflating prices, destroying appropriate records and now stealing gadgets from the office...

This sure explains the sudden acquisition of cars and the urge to go shopping abroad, lands they bought and one of them has even started to build...they are even importing ladies too service them from other states… I got a clear picture. They have been ripping off the company. I became really tempted to join them. It looked really harmless, after all they have made it thus far and no one has coughed… but why shouldn’t I, I asked myself... Please what should I do? My colleagues are diverting company jobs and even stealing its equipment's to enrich them, and sincerely, I have more chances than them if I venture into this…

What should I do? I just can't seat back and watch things go on like this...i either join or join…or either join or make management know… please advise me, what are my chances?

 

People, how should we really handle this situation? considering the possible consequences of his decision.

Over to you…

If you have difficulties posting your comments, kindly send it to zeesdiamond@gmail.com with your name or pen-name if you like.

 

LADIES...IS IT ACTUALLY A COMPLEMENT WHEN MEN SAY ''YOU LOO...

BONDED HOME: LADIES...IS IT ACTUALLY A COMPLEMENT WHEN MEN SAY ''YOU LOO...: If you were in my shoes, as a lady at my age and stage, you would probably do same or even worse than I have done. When I was recruit...

GET FACTS ABOUT EGGS, DONT JUST GO WITH FABLES

EGGS ARE JUST TOO GOOD

Share this with your doctor and clear your doubts on eggs…

The egg is a remarkable achievement of nature. It contains all the biological components that forms a chicken, and is widely accepted as one of the healthiest foods available.

Eggs are a very good source of protein and the trace mineral selenium, a good source of phosphorus, riboflavin and vitamin B12 and high in nutrients important for the eyes and brain, but high in saturated fat and very high in cholesterol.

In fact, a single medium-sized egg contains 62 per cent of the recommended maximum daily intake. After many years of criticism and bad publicity, eggs are again accepted in nutritional circles, and it is generally agreed

1. that up to 3 whole eggs can be safely eaten each day, and 2 to 6 of the cholesterol-rich yolks a week.

2. Eating more than the recommended number of eggs and egg yolks apparently caused him no problems, and there is in fact little evidence to support any restriction of egg eating on account of cholesterol content.

The Truth Behind The Cholesterol Myth

Cholesterol is associated in most people’s minds with heart attack and stroke, but it is an important part of the cell membrane, and of the sheath that surrounds nerve fibers and allows them to conduct electricity.

3. Cholesterol is also necessary for the production of the adrenal gland hormones cortisol and aldosterone, and of the sex hormones estrogen and testosterone.

4. It is made into bile in the liver and may protect other cells as an antioxidant.

5. A certain amount of cholesterol is necessary, and it is produced in the liver if it cannot be obtained in the diet. If cholesterol is taken in from eggs and other foods, production by the liver is dialed back or shut down, so that the total amount of cholesterol obtained from diet and produced by the liver stays about the same.

6. This has led to the suggestion that the recommended limitation of cholesterol intake, from eggs and otherwise, should be reconsidered

HDL Vs. LDL Cholesterol

There is more to cholesterol than just the blood level, however. There are several different subtypes of cholesterol, mainly HDL (high-density lipoprotein)  LDL (low-density lipoprotein).

7. LDL is the “bad” cholesterol that contributes atherosclerosis, the deposition of fats and calcium in blood vessel walls that leads to their blockage and results in heart attack and stroke.

 

8. HDL is the “good” cholesterol that helps to remove these deposits and has a protective effect against heart attack and stroke

 

SEVERAL LARGE STUDIES HAVE CONFIRMED THAT THE “GOOD” HDL CHOLESTEROL IS INCREASED WITH EGG CONSUMPTION

THAT EGGS INCREASE THE BENEFICIAL EFFECT ON “GOOD” CHOLESTEROL OF A RESTRICTED-CARBOHYDRATE DIET AND THAT WHOLE EGGS ARE MORE EFFECTIVE IN RAISING “GOOD” CHOLESTEROL LEVELS THAN EGG WHITES

Curled from: http://dailyhealthpost.com

 

 

PROFIT OR CHEATING...Rank your business acumen

Why do people do business?

I’m sure it’s MAINLY for profit…

So read my experience and tell me what you think….what is your business acumen on this?

 

One of those days , I stepped out of the office to have lunch. As I strolled to the canteen, I suddenly heard this great noise that sounded as if war has just began. It was indeed war, it was war of ideologies...Some were fighting while others engaged in very hot argument. I thought I should stay away, but if I did, you wouldn’t be able to share this gist.

 

It turns out that Emeka, a dealer in electronic left his shop in care of Uche, his apprentice. Uche is a teenager of about 14yrs and has been with him for about 3years. A customer walks in their shop and shows special interest in a gold-platted pressing iron. The iron sells for N8,000 but judging by the enthusiasm the customer showed and of course the need to make profit, Uche tells the customer that the iron goes for 20,000. The customer bids for N18,000 and Uche says “bring money”

 

Emeka arrives to the knowledge that Uche had sold the gold-platted iron of N8000 for N18000, a feat he couldn’t achieves as the boss. He asked Uche if he took the customers details… He begins to heap praises on Uche for such a great bargain. Just then, the customer shows up…this time, very angry...he seems to have gone to other outlets and have discovered that the iron actually goes for N8,000 and it has been sold to him at a very exorbitant rate just some minutes earlier.

 

He attacks Uche and starts screaming. “You think you can cheat me”? you this small rat… He grabs Uche, Emeka has to come to the rescue. Then the fight begins…. The customer wants his money refunded, claiming he has been cheated.

Other shop-owners wade in to the matter and they reached different conclusions. Some felt he bought the product based on his bargaining power, others felt Uche and his boss actually cheated the customer.

 

My question therefore, where is that thing line between cheating the customer and making profit? 

Personally, I have had situations where I have bought stuff and after taking a second look at how much I paid and may be getting other price ranges, I would find myself saying, “this guy don cheat me” 

Is there a point when “profit making” can actually be “cheating in the real sense”? or permit me to informally brand it as “over-profit”

Is there limit at what one can make as profit in business?

 

                  

BREAD WINNING...Not just Winning Bread...(Should or Should'nt women participate?)

BREAD WINNING… Not just Winning Bread

 

I work with a telecoms servicing company and to be sincere, I am not satisfied with what I take home. My take home pay, like that of most workers in the private sector is not enough to take me home.. If you ask me, I would say I bleed for every kobo that comes into my wallet. I don’t have the opportunity to add more zeros either by ommission or commission. If you understand what I mean.  

 

My wife, Suzan works in a bank and as God pleases, she earns far more than I can ever get even if I become a Manager at my office.  To the glory of God, I am very happy about that...You think I am kidding?...well I am not. I am really cool with it.

 

Suzan and I decided to share the financial commitments of our home. A feat I consider legendary...My salary proved sufficient only for the payment of the children's school fees and some petty miscellenous spendings that had to do with the children. We have two lovely daughters. We decided that Suzy would take care of the kitchen, fuel the cars and sort her upkeep.(This arrangement was reached mutually and bearing in mind, the ratio of her salary to mine)

 

The plan had remained successful until my company had a major set-back and salaries were not paid that month...the next and then, the next... We are still being owed..  This harsh time at work coincided with when our childrens’ school fees should hit the schools’ account. I couldn't cough out the money. I did everything possible, I even tried to borrow money but no one was willing to offer me a dime.

 

I had to fall back to my wife. I knew that would be some trouble. Before I even started my plea, she goes, "why haven't you paid the childrens' fees?” “How would I be able to pay when my salary has not been paid for three months?” I asked "Well, you really have to find a way to sort that out because I did not make plans for their school fees...that's about the only thing you cater for and you still cannot see to it” She lashed out... "Honey I am sorry but right now, we need the kids back in school, lets resolve this issue first before you blame me, please let's use some of your money" I tried to persuade.

 

“My what? Am I not doing enough?…don’t be unfair…please do whatever you need to do and get them back to school. I could assist, but I don’t have that covered in my budget and you know it” she fumed.  “Suzy, are you going to watch the children stay at home because of money?” "Lawrence"…she called me really sternly…she usually says “Law”. Lawrence.. this is the only thing you do in this house.. please get it done”

 

Desperate times call for desperate measures so  I decided to sell our laptop and my Z10 to save the situation. These are items that can fetch me money almost immediately and I can also replace them without much hassles “Let me use you for the last time” I said to the laptop. I turned it on and went online. I wished I sold it without turning it on. Suzy’s email was logged on… and I saw payment confirmations of transactions she made right after our conversation…a night ago...the online shops sent her mails on payment and delivery details…I was shattered. She bought expensive shoes, bags, weave-on, perfumes, office suits and gowns and they amount twice above what was required for our children's school fees… I never really checked how much she purchased her stuff as it was directly from her purse…should I have been poking my nose in that actually?

 

I am angry… I don’t know what to do. Am I at fault in any way? Please tell me before I go off the road…