VACANCIES FOR SEVERAL POSITIONS: Deadline 8th February, 2014

When are we going to stop clicking these jobs sites? Will that day ever come? Clicking them may not be the exact problem, what infuriates is the helpless dependence that the applicant puts on the "submit" key viz a viz the painful fact that most of these sites are mere scams and NEVER get to make recruitment possible for any applicant.

But what is expected of a graduate apart from getting a job? Checking job sites is in the right direction you might say. Statistically, how many graduates have got jobs from these media?

You can ask around, how many got online jobs...It would be an understatement to say there are no jobs out there or else, how do you reconcile that people qualified with Doctorate Degrees applied to be drivers in Dangote's firm recently, how do we cope with some private schools charging as high as 650k for a session, only for their graduates to end up "clicking" job sites too.         

Is it not abnormal to find people working outside their disciplines? Engineers as Salesmen or bankers, pharmacists in call centers  zoologists in banks, geologists in sales departments, lawyers as customer care agents and so on. The list is endless.. the popular saying right now is that Nigerian graduates are unemployable; sad as this sounds, it might be true. As most graduates have only studied to pass courses, they have learnt nothing about Character.  Connoting, i mean every other method of survival apart from "ink on paper".            

Let us compare again...how many graduates with white collar jobs actually make more money than the roadside mechanic or the fashion designer down the street or even the bus driver on the high way?.

These days, academic success no longer guarantee financial success. What then guarantees success? Isnt it high time we channeled our skills into VOCATIONAL practises?. Those things that come to you naturally, things you are really interested in, those abilities you exhibit without stress, skills that you posses more than many people around you. Everyone sure has one like this. If you have not located yours and you think its too late to find it, then create your own business no matter how small. The only way to start is to start.

Your formal education should be harnessed into making your vocational abilities a world class brand. Permit me to mention some popular names who have made wealth following their talents not their formal education.. A few among others are Late Sir Fatai Rolling Dollar, Late Alhaji Sikiru Ayinde Barrister, Timaya, John Mikel, Otunba K1 Alabi Pasuma, Tuface Innocent Idibia, Tara Durotoye, MUDI fashion, Ara, the lady Talking Drummer and even PSquare, who graduated from UniAbuja...so many others that you know. It may be in sports, music, arts and crafts, agriculture, business or any creative venture. Take a step now and start something.

My dear reader, this is the job i advertised. The first step of being your own boss is to START STARTING.

Questions to consider..                      

Is formal education a right or a privilege?                            

Does formal education guarantee financial success?

Formal Education: Only way to financial success?

In Nigeria today, how relevant are certificates?

The floor is now open

WOULD YOU ACCEPT FAVORS FROM YOUR EX-LOVER?

I am privileged to have you here, so i say a very big thank you for visiting; i hope to have you again and again and again...our elders say a story can only be told to another, not one's self.              

This week’s discourse is an ex-ray of how we manage relationships when they seem to be worn-out but still find their way into our present.                                     

People we once shared intimacy with and aspired to be with them forever but broke up for one reason or the other. People we spent several years of commitment with and people who made us really happy. But as God would have it, these relationships could not stand the test of time and were overtaken. Now, many of us found better replacements...as that explains why we are with them today and not our ex's.

This being said, it has been observed that it is highly impossible to "unknow" these set of people. So, we still once in a while call them up secretly, maybe not for any mischievous intentions (without the knowledge of our present partners), some people even hook up, spend time and some go as far as seeking favors from their ex's' for their present spouses, this is a common one with women. The woman contacts her ex, who is now powerfully placed to assist her new partner, to do him a favor, like get him a job or facilitate a needed contact etc. On the part of the men, some of them complain of their relationships to their ex-lovers, some still remain somewhat financially committed to them, if still single, sometimes married, they go complaining of their current relationships seeking pity and succor from their ex’s. Some even go as far as getting intimate with their ex's'.

I am sure you must have read or seen blazing headlines like this on our newspapers... MAN BATHS WIFE IN ACID OUT OF JEALOUSY! HUSBAND STABS WIFE FOR TALKING TO OTHER MEN! WOMEN FIGHT NAKED OVER MEN! WOMAN POISONS HUSBAND FOR CHEATING! EX-LOVER KILLS WOMAN'S HUSBAND! and even more horrible ones.

This is not to write-off the possibilities of healthy relationships between ex- lovers as some even become family friends at some point. This however remains very rare.

We all fall in these dual categories...You are with someone now, same time ex-lover to someone.  

Questionnaire therefore... 

Is it ideal for lovers to get favors from their ex lovers for their current lovers? 

Is it healthy to be in touch with your ex-lover?, 

Where understanding seems to be expressed from current lover over contact with ex-lover, that is when he/she is aware, could jealousy not be breeding? 

If one must be in touch, what should we look out for?

 Are there boundaries?

The floor is now open.

CAUGHT RED HANDED

How women cheat

I welcome you to our blog, thank you for reading and dropping your comment(s). As no man is an island of knowledge, your comments go a long way in educating others. When knowledge is shared, we all get better for it. Just as we savored, divulged and discussed our last topic Dangerous Nannies, I got into a conversation with some elderly friends who have been married for more than 30 years and they shared their experiences with me. I was left mouth-ajar, jaw-hung and mentally terrified. Here is the first phase of that encounter.

Ade got married to his two years lover, Fola who he met on a job interview in the US. They chatted politely and kept in touch until they started hooking up… and finally, the cake was iced and all roads led to the altar. They got married and relocated to Portharcourt, Nigeria to run their own firm as well as nurture their home. Ade’s business required constant travelling for meetings, transactions and general public relations routines. On one of those occasions, Fola’s best-lady Bella was to visit while Ade proceeded to Abu Dhabi on a business trip for a week. Although he will miss his wife, he felt better considering she would have company while he was away. Bella was well received ..a guest all the way from the US? In these hard times? Her coming was like the Queens visit to Nigeria. In three days, 

Ade was already settled at the Portharcourt International Airport when he got a call from his Manager at the office that the ware-house was on fire...with such frenzy which the manager spoke, Ade heard that his house was on fire..."house", not "warehouse"...He sped all the way home...as he approached he became more confused... Reached his phone to call the Manager, he was not picking. Now at home, and everything looks calm, no fire. He was furious, heading to the bedroom to narrate his ordeal to his wife and he hears this strange sound of women in ecstasy...he doubled his pace, almost unnoticed, flung the door open and guess what he saw...Fola and Bella screaming for "come". He caught them red-handed...entangled and buried in their lesbians' erotic paradise. 

As he mused in confusion, his phone rings…the manager now screaming ‘‘Oga, where you dey? the warehouse dey burn o’’                         

If you were Ade, how would you take this? What is your advice for him? As Fola, what could have led her to this spot? How do we avoid these kind of experiences? What is the implications of this kind of occurrence to the family?

The floor is now open.

DANGEROUS NANNIES

My dearest reader, I welcome you once again to our blog. Last week turned out with diverse, yet all cogent reasons why a woman should be a housewife or go after a career. As I read through, a particular comment caught my attention strongly and got me thinking...Here is the comment...

"People, i am considering resigning. a colleague just got a call that her child was seen somewhere in Ojuelegba…that one woman carried the baby and is begging for money. She rushed there and lo and behold, it was true. The police are on the matter now. its the day care people o. They started confessing that between 11 and 2, they usually go out with the children and beg for money. Posing with children like the real mothers. my friend is in a shock’’                                            

Lillian, VI, lagos.                    

The truth is that, parents cannot and will not always be side by side their children all day. The question therefore is when they are inevitably away from the children, "WHO ARE THE CHILDREN WITH?" These days, the duty of childcare  has become more complex than it was years back, when you could trust almost anybody with your child. This venture is now approached with great caution.       

We have heard stories of nannies who eat babies' food and leave the baby hungry, some even try to breastfeed the baby,  sexually stimulate...assault the children actually, beat up the children, some very mischievous ones arrange kidnaps while others even initiate the children into some demonic practices, worse still among others, they even take the children away from the day care centers to the streets to beg for money posing like a poor mother, leaving the baby very sick afterwards.

Please note that this is not a personal attack on nannies, house maids or anyone in this field as there are some that are actually God sent. So far, the repercussions  seem to outweigh the support got from using their services.

This brings us to our discuss this week...why would you need a nanny? What is your criteria to choosing a nanny? If and perhaps when you discover that your nanny does any of the stated damages to your child, how would you react? Are there govt agencies in charge of nanny services?   

The floor is now open.