How women cheat
I welcome you to our blog, thank you for
reading and dropping your comment(s). As no man is an island of knowledge, your
comments go a long way in educating others. When knowledge is shared, we
all get better for it. Just as we savored, divulged and discussed our last
topic Dangerous Nannies, I got into a conversation with some elderly
friends who have been married for more than 30 years and they shared their
experiences with me. I was left mouth-ajar, jaw-hung and mentally terrified.
Here is the first phase of that encounter.
Ade got married to his two years lover,
Fola who he met on a job interview in the US. They chatted politely and kept
in touch until they started hooking up… and finally, the cake was iced and all
roads led to the altar. They got married and relocated to Portharcourt, Nigeria
to run their own firm as well as nurture their home. Ade’s business required
constant travelling for meetings, transactions and general public relations
routines. On one of those occasions, Fola’s best-lady Bella was to visit
while Ade proceeded to Abu Dhabi on a business trip for a week. Although he
will miss his wife, he felt better considering she would have company while he
was away. Bella was well received ..a guest all the way from the US? In these hard
times? Her coming was like the Queens visit to Nigeria. In three days,
Ade was
already settled at the Portharcourt International Airport when he got a
call from his Manager at the office that the ware-house was on fire...with such
frenzy which the manager spoke, Ade heard that his house was on
fire..."house", not "warehouse"...He sped all the way
home...as he approached he became more confused... Reached his phone to call
the Manager, he was not picking. Now at home, and everything looks calm, no
fire. He was furious, heading to the bedroom to narrate his ordeal to his wife
and he hears this strange sound of women in ecstasy...he doubled his pace,
almost unnoticed, flung the door open and guess what he saw...Fola and Bella
screaming for "come". He caught them red-handed...entangled and
buried in their lesbians' erotic paradise.
As he mused in confusion, his phone
rings…the manager now screaming ‘‘Oga, where you dey? the warehouse dey burn o’’
The floor is now open.
Wow. This is serious. A pellucid reflection of the decadence that has enveloped our world of today. In our immediate clime, we need to approach it wholistically so as to understand the immediate and remote cause of this scourge. My candid advice is for the Husband to calm his nerves and help his wife out of her current state. Obviously, she needs help and it begins with the Husband.
ReplyDeleteHe should jus leave dem n G̶̲̥̅̊ø̲̣̣̥ attend 2 his burning warehouse jor,its jus her fellow woman not a man @least dat shud ease him a little.
ReplyDelete#sighs# its really difficult to tell lesbians by mere looking @ ladies relate together becos ladies express affection towards each other by way of touch. That's by the way, Ade should, in my humble opinion, sit her down and find out abt her past from her...dats if she's become sober from being caught...( This shld have been done wyl dating)... So as to be able to know her sexual weaknesses (what led to that), on the one hand (so he help me thru it); on the otherhand, so he's able to pre-empt her actions in future. Ade should forgive her and help her thru it all, if and only if she's willing to stop it. Truth is, Lesbianism is a rampant viral disease amongst our ladies now so also is gayism amongst men...May God's peace reign supreme amongst His people, Amen!
ReplyDeleteThe man should check himself, how? Some men thinks every thing is about money, most men nowadays, don't have time for their wife, the woman in question, may need good sex, and may think doing it with another man is a sin! I have a friend that use vibrator! I ask her why? She says ,her hubby is not good in bed!
ReplyDeleteLesbianism not African, author by the way where did it originate from? Na man and woman dey do am, however adultery is forbidden
ReplyDeleteAde should first of all attend 2 his burning warehouse ,den come bak and ask his wife 2 bring her friend so that they could all play 2geda,mayb dats hw his wife loves it,maybe dats hw she enjoys it.dias noffin rilli bad ΐŋ wat she did tho,she's aving d urge while missing her husband, she felt guilty sleepin wit a man out Of respect 4 her husband dat ws y she did it wit her fellow woman,it mite nt rilli be dat she's a lesbo.
ReplyDeleteAre ƔU̶̲̥̅̊ nuts...wat sort of advice I̶̲̥̅̊ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇̇ dat
Deletethis is a very serious issue but I think he should attend to his warehouse first then come back home and talk things out with the two ladies (that's if Bella is still there before he returns). This is not there first time of doing that. It is possible that Fola might have another partner here in nigeria which Ade may not be in the know of.
ReplyDeleteFola had no reason to cheat on her husband, let alone with a fellow woman, but @ thesame time, I won't support a divorce, only if her husband can find a way of helping his sick wife live a normal life again, cos obviously, she's in bondage.
ReplyDeletedivorce no!!, yes i will hit d warehouse, after that, i will pray with my wife n break that ill spirit of woman to woman on divan (bad).
ReplyDeletethis is abysmall sickness of the mind. How can a man cope with this? house on fire, warehouse on fire... his balls are sure on fire.
ReplyDeleteAll the best dude. When i think up a solution, i ll reach you.
it is obvious that Oga Ade is not doing his job well enough. Because if he treats her well in bed, she would not subscribe to such degrading pettern. Ade should go to the warehouse, resolve that , come back home, forgive his wife and COMMUNICATE WITH HER. if they are believers, good for them, if not..their marriage myt not work.
ReplyDeletetwo things are involved in this. 1. Its either is not such a great guy on bed and he is not willing to change. 2.His wife would never get satisfgaction even if Ade became a stiudd. In all, his wife would never be right sleeping with another woman...Its still infidelity. But people are realy funny, how can someone come all the way from US just to have a great time with another woman
ReplyDeleteNow, this story is simply a shocker!! Exactly how many thing could actually go wrong with a marriage cum relationship?
ReplyDeleteDoes the woman (Fola) have kids? Is she gainfully employed? How close is this couple really.
As for Ade, I would advice him to sort his warehouse out first, allow himself to calm down, before delving into his marital issues.
Like someone said, his house is on fire, his warehouse is on fire and his balls is on fire. The guy would need to see a Dr first, sort himself out psychologically before facing that wife of his.
Well, most women need money and all the comforts that money can buy. The man confuses this to mean if I give her enough money and comfort all shall be well, how wrong!!!
ReplyDeleteFola probably loves her man, and would rather do it with a fellow lady instead of a guy.
I read a story where the man's wife is a lesbo....I will post the story later. If you want to read.
Reply post it, when I have 10, I will post the story
Joey PH
i am utterly suprised how a woman would want to justify this kind of home-breaking act. If the man has actually provided money and comfort and has failed to provide the rest maximally, does it justify anything? does it justify lesbianism. Most women would actually be doing this since they wont get pregnant. God help.
ReplyDeleteif you think money is everything, ask yourself why the rich still want to get more money. there are other things apart from money... like good sex.. it is totally differnt from money. So is attention and care... they are differnt from money... be guided.
ReplyDeleteA bad habit is a bad habit, lets not make it sound better.. If i were the one...Ade, she is gonna get the hell out of my house that day.. immediately before i come back from the warehouse
ReplyDeletethere ate no two ways to it. this woman is in verydeep shit and she has carried it into her home and perharps it would have stayed with her all through if not for the boomerang. Let Ade calm down, fix the golden goose, the warehouse i mean and then take his wife for deliverance in a bible practicing church. After which he would now try to trust her if he can afterwards. This one wey he no fit leave am with woman, na man you wan leave am for?
ReplyDeleteAdebayo Oke,Lagos
lets just pray that our woman is and remains a God fearing woman... cos from my experience i know that if a woman is set to deal with you, be you Abacha or Goliath or Samson, your back must touch the ground.
ReplyDeleteFirst the problems of this home is huger than is being described here. How did Fola get to this spot? she would have been in it before she got married, maybe many years before she got married. Now that she is married, that crave is still burning. Do not be suprised if it was Fola that paid for Bellas trip all the way. Now that she is in this spot, should she be crucified for it? ans is no. she should be forgiven and embrace a new life. It is also clear that they are not great together on bed. They are not communicating. one would expect that Fola would tell her husband clearly how she likes it. The man , to me is not guilty of any crime here. let the truth be told. If you say your man is not a stud and you become a secret whore because of that , are your justified?
ReplyDeleteThe best thing Ade can do now is to try and sort his warehouse and then take a break, relax very well so he does not take any rash decision. On the long run, he would have to forgive her after all they wedded in the church were divorce is not an option.
ReplyDeleteLordson
Hmmmm.. this is very heart breaking. she for honour the man go do am elswhere. not for their matrimonial bed na.
ReplyDeleteEmmynine
Isnt this some sort of disconnection? its not working Ade. She does not love you.
ReplyDeleteShe cant love you and be intimate with another.
Miriam.
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ReplyDeleteLovely write up, now let's consider the fact that this actually happened, for me it means Satan is still very much at work against one of the oldest instututions as made by God (Marriage). Everything God has made the devil wants to counterfiet. Sex in marriage is actually for Procreation & bonding, but these days its been commercialized and people actually don't or refuse to see what's wrong with it. Let us not forget that as far as Lesbianism is concerned, around this part of the world its a "crazy" subject matter, but we should not be too "holy" to speak about it or against it. My personal stand as always been that thing is a spiritual issue especially for those who claim to be christians. How would we say that what God gave us aint enough then we seek to satisfy us by inventing "solutions" to our need problems. God alone would forgive us christians for teaching we are in the "kingdom of grace" and forgetting when grace is abused, glory is never attained. Ade sought after wealth and probably thought materials would compensate for it now he's gotta deal with this. He should face his warehouse and sort business out then come home to resolve what the issue is with his wife. If need be she should be taken for a deliverance service to be free from the bondage she's in. God has a way of revealing things to us, look at the fire at his warehouse as a warning to him to slow down and focus on his homefront 'cos there was more fire burning there and that fire would harm him more than loosing his warehouse. Let's not always wait to "fall" before we finally see what we should. They'll both be fine if they are REAL Christians.
CAUGHT RED HANDED
First and foremost,it Is obvious that Jesus christ is not the head of this home,and I would also say the man has failed in leading the family aright...candid opinion for Ade he should hand his family over to God
ReplyDeleteLesbian wives are everywhere,the man should jes go and take care of his warehouse,and face his wife
ReplyDeleteSuch a thing can only happen when the woman doesn't get enuf attention from the Man,I this would serve as an alert to men,don't think when you give a woman money she is satisfied,money is important but she also needs ur affection,I no blame the woman o
ReplyDeleteThis is an interesting write up,thumbs up Bonded home,issues like this are what people shy away from,but on a plat form like this its always so easy to bare ones mind out,I don't blame the woman,I feel her pain and I am also considering taking to a Vibrator or having anoda woman to flex with since its aborminable to commit adultery
ReplyDeleteFirstly @ Mrs CJ pls don't even consider doing any of those,it a sin before God and Man,Turn to God and he would just help you out and also find time to speak to your spouse about it,which is my point,couples should learn to communicate adequately,this is marriage a union of two different people coming together,Sex should be a free discursion between the 2,its important,let Ade attend to the fire in his home,well after he as succesfully put out the one in his warehouse...
ReplyDeleteHmmm end time signs,the bible said Men shall be lovers of Men God help us o,Ade pls find a way to kick the devil out of your home,be in charge.
ReplyDeleteThis isvery disturbing. this story shows the many ways at which trhe devil is fighting homes. I have heard people say that men are just giving the money and assume thats all that needs to be done, In this scenario, i dont see anything wrong this man has done. the blogger did not anyway insinuate that he wasnt giving her attention. Or is anyone saying that his wife is justified because he travels always?
ReplyDeleteRichy
Daughters of Eve,necessary evil. they are simply insatiable.the day you start trusting a woman, you are finished.
ReplyDeleteBrown
You people are sounding as if you are better? men are worse when it comes to INFIDELITY.
ReplyDeleteWe dont bring other men into our matrimonial beds
ReplyDeleteBrown
@Brown you don'y bring other men into ur matrimonial bed buy you aint denying it as well right?
ReplyDeleteThis family is lost,they need christ first and foremost,before any other thing.
ReplyDelete@ Brown Again, so you would rather bring another woman into your matrimonal bed?
ReplyDeleteAhahahahahahha am laffining oo,pls who says what the woman did is a lesser evil to cheating on the man with another Man,pls what is wrong is wrong
ReplyDelete@ Joey, please post
ReplyDelete@Special One. Let us call a spade a spade. have you not seen or heard how the National Assembly kicked against gayism with all its strength? i am aware there is a jail term for that as a matter of fact. Have you heard any as per lesbianinsm. Tells you that the lesbo idea is readily available.. it is rampant among women than gasyims is among men and now people like you want to make it permissible. people like Fola should be first and foremost,hospitalised, treated for mental disorder and then arrested for such a heinous crime. if u have a gmail acct just click notify me just outside the box.. so we can sufficiently trash this issue...bondedhome...great job.
ReplyDeleteBrown Again
I think the Man must have done something wrong to haave warranted such an outcome from the woman,people say women are weaker vessels but with my experiences I have learnt that they are actually stronger,so they should not be commonized
ReplyDeleteAde so sorry,no need to cry when the head is cut off,go and attend to your burning ware house,divorse is not an option,neither reporting to anybody is the solution,because this simply shows how negligent you have been of your home front duties,so my friend calmly settle it with your wife so no one knows
ReplyDeleteSome women are very funny,she doesn't have regards for her home,and even her husband,the man should send her packing abegg
ReplyDelete@Joey pls post
ReplyDeleteThis is really CAUGHT RED HANDED,ahahahahaha
ReplyDeleteAde better send her packing beforeshe would kill him. After all she doesnt even love him. She loves Bella... Get her out.
ReplyDeleteDuru
I believe its bn a long tym relatnship btw d two women, cos for bella to ave travld all d way,it really shows dat its bn from d US dat it all stard from. D man shud sortout his office first cins its thru dere he gets his finances from. Afterwards,sit his yf down and ask her questions bout wot happnd,d responses he gets shud b wot he shud use to make his decisns.
ReplyDeleteAde should just take the woman to her parents house
ReplyDeleteI am of the opinion that this matter be reported to her parents so that she can be very ashamed and she ll understand the gravity. All those saying that saying that the man should help her should go and seat down somewhere. What kind of help does she want that she doesnt have already. They shld enjoy the shame together by telling all the stake holders.
ReplyDeleteOnome
@ Brown, I don't have anything to trash out with you privately. Why can't you simply Say you may not bring a man home, but you must at some point taken a women (not wifey) to a bed somewhere at some time.
ReplyDeleteAde should better dedicate his family to God,looks to me that he has left that space for the devil to fill,it really hurts but he should take charge
ReplyDeleteI suspect this guy@brown
ReplyDeleteThis woman to me looks idle,if she wasn't idle then she must be a woman with no child,I really can't fathom what she is doing in the web of Lesbianism
ReplyDeletePls what is happening to our world,everything is going so fast,things are really going wrong,God save us,Ade please you have a sick wife which you need to pay attention to.
ReplyDeleteJesus is the way to the trouble you are facing now,give your life and family to Him and you would have no regrets.
ReplyDeleteWhy would anyone say that it is not infidelity for a woman to be with another woman. Na. Infidelity raised to power two. This woman has ruined her home. There are some secret sins that are worse than the ones committed openly. I think they shld see their spiritual mentor and get his counsel. Ade should be more attentive to the home. Cos his wife might have other partners.
ReplyDeleteFor the sake of peace,this is another marriage on the verge of breaking up,why all this randdy comments,pls give a good advise so that these two can have peace in their home
ReplyDeleteLife is in phases and this is a phase in this mans life,let him take it in good fate and ask God for help
ReplyDeleteHmmmm...I would Ade not to take any rash decision. His wounds would surely heal up over time. He should quietly walk away to somewhere calm...let the screaming manager sort the burning warehouse...cos if he goes there, he might just loose it entirely. He should go straight to his pastor. When he is calm, he can come home and listen to Fola's'begging that is if she is sorry. He should take her for deliverance. He should fix the warehouse and bring his family closer to God. This way, they should be fine after it all. Deciding hastily would lead to more trouble. This is very sad.
ReplyDeleteJames Aboderin
@Special One, i think you have a lot to trash with me. If not, why the personal question? I can proudly beat my chest for the past 5yrs with my wife, i have never and will never do such a things. It frivolous. Not because i am so faithful or because i am the general overseer of my church. It is because of Gods grace. I dont have plans to abuse that Grace. So i will never take sides with any form of infidelity whether gay, lesbo or even straight. How can you say she loves her man and is still craving for another womans intimacy? What kind of judge are you? Is this part of the women emancipation movement?
ReplyDeleteBrown Again
D guy shld jst sit down nd hav ᵃ rily serious discussion wit his wife. She can be rehabilitated if need be nd d guy can alwayz 4giv her. Besidez tz marriage... 4 beta 4 worse ryt?
ReplyDeleteNa wa o, hmmm, I don't envy Ade at all. I am not sure if Fola's can be redeemed but in any marital relationship, good sex or lovemaking is very important please! No money can buy me that abeg...women love attention and men (like babies) must also be shown enough tender love and care. So, those two pple have got serious issues, they better trash it instead of running to a fellow woman (rubbish wish I can't imagine) or bussiness for succour! Margaret (Umuahia)
ReplyDeleteThis is clearly devilish. Surprised that she brought it into her home? its shoking. He should invite deliverance ministers to the house.
ReplyDeleteThis is really disheartening,Ade is feel your pain,please send that woman packing obviously she has proved you are not important
ReplyDeleteIs this part of the for better for worse?
ReplyDeleteOn a radio call in program monitored in Lagos a house wife called to ask for advice
ReplyDeleteShe complained that each time she needs the husband "s attention the man will askl for payment .if you fall into her shoe, what will you do? I am of the opinion to listen to fola's story too. Else we will pass wrong judgment
@John samson, in other words you are saying we should not pass Negative judgement on Fola,as far as am concerned what ever Fola's risen is for getting into a woman affair is not and can never be justified
ReplyDeleteHow would a man demand for money before having with his wife,what is this world turning into,strange happenings everywhere
ReplyDeleteThe bible say seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and every other thing shall be added unto you,Ade should seek God first so that every other thing can ba added to him including peace in his home+a faithful wife
ReplyDeleteGod forbid,this is a strong abormination,she should dance in the market square after which she should seek forgiveness from her husband...and be expelled...let them stay apart for sometime for special cleansing after which she would be made to swear an oath of faithfulness that would claim her life if she gets involved in such act again
ReplyDelete@mwanbueze, you sound like you are reviewing home video that was acted in the east. Many things are wrong in that home, both are at fault.
Delete@Nwanbueze this is 21st century,why should such happen to her because of one mistake she made,excuse me,if it was the man that was caught would he be made to go through those things,its high time we stop this woman degrading
ReplyDeleteAde please don't pay attention to the negative talk of some people,divorse is not an option
ReplyDeleteAbraham maslow's hierarchy of need, the need to be loved is one of those needs of mankind. The man is always on the move for business
ReplyDeleteCivic responsibility the man should face it squarely
@ John Samson why would you say both are at fault,what are their faults if I may ask,because it is clear here that the woman is not innocent
ReplyDeleteThe man needs to stay at home more with his family, money isn't everything in life,if he needs to enjoy his money he should pay attention to his wife,money isn't everything
ReplyDeleteThis is highly embarrassing. Its bad enough.i don't think we should worsen it. Now it seems to me that women can forgive infidelity while the woman cannot be forgiven if found in such. SIMPLY PUT,IF A MAN SLEEPS WITH ANOTHER WOMAN AND HE IS CAUGHT ALL HE NEEDS TO DO IS TO BEG HIS WIFE,BUT IF SHE IS CAUGHT WITH ANOTHER MAN OR WOMAN AS THE CASE MAY BE...SHE HAS TO DANCE NAKED IN THE MARKET SQUARE? CRAP...
ReplyDelete@ Gina,I tire o,this is gender discrimination,never know u would say same,thumbs up
ReplyDeleteAny man in Ades shoe woiuld have very serious issues with trusting people, especially women, sorry especially his wife, ever again. Evn if the pastor or the church board settles this, can he every trust her again?
ReplyDeleteZainy
This is very touching. The man should forgive his wife and sincerely and consciously ensure that she gets over it. They should consult their spiritual heads and close all the loop holes in the family. He should reduce the spate at which he travels and spend more time with the family. His wife should also quit it indeed and they should work out their home.
ReplyDeletei think there is more to it than just this lesbo thing. how could Bella come all trhe way from US just to be with Fola? arent there many lesbo ladies in the US? Mehn... call God mahn
ReplyDeleteI think pascal is right,so many thought would come up but either ways,Ade should take the issue to the pastor who wedded them,Divorce is not an option but am certain that seperation for a little while is an option. Mabel
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