My dearest reader, I welcome you
once again to our blog. Last week turned out with diverse, yet all cogent
reasons why a woman should be a housewife or go after a career. As I read
through, a particular comment caught my attention strongly and got me
thinking...Here is the comment...
"People, i am considering resigning. a colleague just got a call that
her child was seen somewhere in Ojuelegba…that one woman carried the baby and
is begging for money. She rushed there and lo and behold, it was true. The
police are on the matter now. its the day care people o. They started
confessing that between 11 and 2, they usually go out with the children and beg
for money. Posing with children like the real mothers. my friend is in a shock’’
Lillian,
VI, lagos.
The truth is that, parents cannot
and will not always be side by side their children all day. The question
therefore is when they are inevitably away from the children, "WHO ARE THE
CHILDREN WITH?" These days, the duty of childcare has become more complex than it was years
back, when you could trust almost anybody with your child. This venture is now approached
with great caution.
We have heard
stories of nannies who eat babies' food and leave the baby hungry, some even
try to breastfeed the baby, sexually
stimulate...assault the children actually, beat up the children, some very
mischievous ones arrange kidnaps while others even initiate the children into
some demonic practices, worse still among others, they even take the children
away from the day care centers to the streets to beg for money posing like a
poor mother, leaving the baby very sick afterwards.
Please note that this is not a
personal attack on nannies, house maids or anyone in this field as there are
some that are actually God sent. So far, the repercussions seem to outweigh the support got from using
their services.
This brings us to our discuss
this week...why would you need a nanny? What is your criteria to choosing a
nanny? If and perhaps when you discover that your nanny does any of the stated
damages to your child, how would you react? Are there govt agencies in charge
of nanny services?
The floor is now
open.
I really can't imagine this awkward things happening to my child,that was why I stated last week here that I'd rather be a stay at home mum call me a full housewife if you want...but I sincerely want to keep my sanity intact
ReplyDeleteValerie...Ph
What????begging with my kids on the streets...that's the height of it,I would design her face for her before law enforcement agencies appear
ReplyDeleteMichel Lagos
All this things stated here are absolutely correct and true,as a matter of fact,I have heard of situations whereby the nanny leaves a 3months old baby alone in the house for close to 5hours,while she was away at her aboki boyfriends place in the area
ReplyDeleteViv. Benue
Its inevitable,nannies are highly important for the home but if I have to take...I would really scrutinize her,know where she came from,run medical tests on her,make her sign an undertaking I can even install hidden cameras in the house,its my child here o pls...
ReplyDeleteWilliams Lekki
Hmmmm. I cant bring myself to truly imagine it.
ReplyDeleteLekan
Before i accept any nany, i need to know her background very well, at least her immediate nuclear family...only then can she have custody of my children. Ibinabo, Lagos
ReplyDeleteRilly,this is vcery intruiging. For we who are not yet married. Nannies are an inevitable part of our institution. Am even confused cos now creche's are messing up,ur nanny too will mess up. Av experienced the disadvantage of a mother not working,so my wife has to work. I'll just go with the idea of having a nannie but the woman needs 2 get home early before the husband. *sigh* God help us. For ur gossips peeps keep reading www.holakomolafe.blogspot.com
ReplyDeleteIts highly unbelievable,I'd rather be a stay home mum and keep close watch...over my kids
ReplyDeleteMirel
I think befor I take a nanny,I'd have to take her to church for deliverance befor I put her into my house...
ReplyDeleteProphet moses
I actualy can't do without a nanny...even if I have to stay in the house with my kids...
ReplyDelete@Prophet Moses...what needs to be done should be done o. Happy for you that you can conduct deliverance. Those of us wey no fit nko? But on a serious note, i think before bringing anyone into the house as a nany to stat with ur kids? One shoudl pray abt it. Cos what the children are exposed to plays a very significant role in their lives
ReplyDeleteNelson, Enugu
They were seen begging on the streets begging? What? She should just arrest them and sue their a**es...what the hell? Mehn this is really disheartnening...all in the pursuite of money? At the xpense of someone elses child? May God direct our footsteps.
ReplyDeleteNkechi,PHC
Good luck to all those women that depend on nanny to take care of their wards...Just find time to raise your kids and go back to your work once they are grown enough.
ReplyDeleteBimpe, Ib
Many disadvantages of working class or career woman. You pay for the money you earn at the end of the money terribly. I think these children are the reason we labour and work. May it not be in vain
ReplyDeleteMany disadvantages of working class or career woman. You pay for the money you earn at the end of the money terribly. I think these children are the reason we labour and work. May it not be in vain
ReplyDeleteI just got a nanny and i ensured a level of trust since she is a widow from my church. I suppose she has experience. She ll be going for medical checkup today.
ReplyDeleteYou have a choice to make ur wife a house wife...but where is there absolute safety?
ReplyDeleteKazeem
This news is very shocking. These people are supposed to be trusted mothers.
ReplyDeleteHow can they do such a thing. the pooor child would not be able to complain to the parents that he has been under the sun all day. Na God go pubish them.
Ebele, Lagos
There is nopthing new under the sun, this one is even the one that has been revealed o. what of the unknown things they could be doing with peoples children. Really, this issue has to taken seriously...@bondedhome, can you follow up?
ReplyDeletethe destinies of that child would not forgive these people. hmmm.
ReplyDeletelaura
hmmm, wives should just stay at home and raise their children before going to get career and jobs that can get in the way of the proper and safe upbringing of the child.
ReplyDeleteAdeola, Lagos
my reaction would be to destroy the woman with correct blow before police come. Seriously, its a big issue. i never used nannies. i simply got a younger girl who i had an arrangement with her parents topay her school fees and she would assist my family.
ReplyDeleteEngr Chuks
I'd conduct proper interview...make her write an undertaking,know her immediate family and be sure she has responsibilities too
ReplyDeleteMy home is sacred,my kids are priceless,I won't even let my wife toil with such idea,she'd rather stay hime and take care of our kids,I will provide all she needs and ask for
ReplyDeleteWonders shall never seize to end,how on earth would any one do such...its outrageous,highly inhumanity to fellow man,
ReplyDeleteI don't subscribe to getting nanny in my house...so no criteria ...not given it a tot for onces...
ReplyDeleteAll I would need to do is know the immediate family os d supposed nanny,before accepting her to work with me
ReplyDeleteBring Nanny ...bring wahala..so its a no no no to househelp abeg.
ReplyDeleteNannies are necesary evil if you ask me,I would rather bring a relative to stay with me o
ReplyDeleteI have witnessed such before,its was really alarming,I won't even advise my enemy to get a nanny
ReplyDeleteThen my kids would start manifesting for me in the house,no way,where is the nanny coming from?my wife dare not raise such a discussion
ReplyDeleteBefore i choose a nany, i ld makesure the person has a family that i can see...i must know people that she is connected to. Or else when it happens who do i run to.
ReplyDeleteShe would have enough to explain by the time I finish costomizing her face,she would never try it,not even in he 2nd comin
ReplyDeleteMabel Garki
i cant just imagine myself in that kind of mess. God, i ll strangle her before the police or whoever arrives. can you imagine. So it means that all those children they carry about may not actually be theirs? God help us
ReplyDeleteSade, Lag
Truth be told...wives please and please,stay @ home care for ur kids...when they are grown enough to care for themselve(basic things)then you are sure that they can report anything wrong done to them by anyone,don't wait to become a victim,I love that caption of bondedhome,keep it up you are doing a good work here.
ReplyDeleteThis tajes me back to the talk of career woman or not. if the childs mother were there, that child would not have gone through such a risk? whats the essence of the mony we are trying to make if we jeopardise our childrens life on account of money.
ReplyDeleteMakinde Os, Abuja
@Makinde and all, it seems to me that you are insinuating that all childs responsibility is strictly for the woman, a man has no part to play in that?
ReplyDeleteTheresa Mrs, Abuja
Madam Theresa, tell us who the child spends more time with? as a matter of factly, a man is designed to fend for the home. this implies that he has to go out, get out everyday to look for what his wife and children would eat. If the woman can assist, its not a crime, but neglecting her primary duties can make her loose everything.
ReplyDeleteEdiri, Delta
@ theresa Mrs...would you state where a man should come in?mine is to provide hers is to keep watch over the home front,I would have her to blame strongly if anything happens in that department
ReplyDelete@Ediri....Hussssshhhh hussssshhhhh... come off it. how many of you men can confidently, sufficeintly and abundantly meeet the needs of a woman... that a man should go out and fend for the family is not a yardstick for him to also remain outside when he is back home. When a man i at home, his presence should be felt. He should play his own role of mentorship for the children and if they are very young, he should also carry the child when he/ she cries and even change pampers...after all,, na you put am there...
ReplyDeleteTheresa. Abuja
What happens when a woman is not available? are the men not capable of being protective fathers? they seem to be making this sound like child care is totally the womans duty.. haba...
ReplyDeleteCicillia, Uyo
Please oh...no one is saying the man should not help out out,but as for me when a child turns out good everybody says it is the fathers child,and when a child turns out bad,same people would say its the mothers fault,so abeg I would rather stay home and be with my kids,I don't want accident for my kids in form of nanny.
ReplyDelete@All...forgive me if i am from the left side. I am very sure that before that family took their child to that dat care centre, the woman had to give the final say... i am also sure that the reason for day care in the first place was because she had to go to work...Isnt this placing the cart before the horse? i v not been online for a while but im back now...
ReplyDeleteInfact, you too look at it, why is it that the person who saw the children went to the woman, the childs mother instead of the father, it simply tells you that it is the womans duty to take care of the children. A man can support. thats why its the woman that was pregnant not the man.
Brown
Brown...
Before i will even think of a nanny, then it must be that my wife is not avallable and that we are no longer together. She MUST take care of my children by herself.
ReplyDeleteUsman. Gwags
@Brown, welcome back to the blog. You have always suprised me, no unsuprised me with your thought line. i put it to you that you are a chauvinistic person and a very domineering person.
ReplyDeleteUloma
@Uloma....lololololololololololo,,,,lwkmd.. i am rolling on the flooor now. haha.. u don vex...? i am just stating the truth and you know the truth does not always go down well with people... perharps like you. Let me ask you another question.. have you seen a male nanny before...
ReplyDeleteBrown
I support Brown ooo,as for me ehn,I will forget my hand on the nanny's face,I tell you
ReplyDeleteoK, another question... have you ever seen a male begging with children begging on the street before? the answer is no.....BIG FAT NO. Do you know why a man would not succeed and a woman would succeed with such cunning act? its becasue people find it easy to believe that its only the childs mother that can go alll the way to beg for the child to survive. its very easy to think that a woman loves a child more... so.. it becomes very easy to be deceptive with that trust.
ReplyDelete..Uloma talk o... i dey here.
Brown
Forgeting your hand on her face is even small @ Ronke as for me I will becom a vampire IMMEDIATELY,I tell you,I will drain her blood before they come for her rescue
ReplyDeletei think the woman indeed has more part to play in the upbringing of the child. she breastfeeds, she feeds and holds the child all day.
ReplyDeleteMax
This is one of the reasons why islam forbids the woman from working,as for me my wife stays @ home when she wants to go out,she has to do it in company of women with veiled face shikena
ReplyDeleteIts just safer and better for the woman to take absolute carre of the child especially in their growing stages. In siome if tese day cares centre, the children dont get enough attention as the places are often understaffed and all the children depend on one nanny atimes. things can get really shitty.
ReplyDeleteDemola, Ib
This news really scraed the day light out of me... hoe can someone do such a thing. i am sure, they must have been doing such for a while before nemesis caught up with them, i really hope the police handles this case well.
ReplyDeleteJames, Ojodu
This is a wonderful topic,I think the government should form a committee to look touroughly into this matter..lol but on a serious note now,I would say NO TO NANNIES
ReplyDeleteit is natural for a woman to ease gently into a child than a man. thats why you see that children also look forward to their mothers than their fathers..
ReplyDeletePeople, is there a government body monitoring the affairs of day care centres?
ReplyDeletethe writer has said it all.. these days, it has become very difficult to trust anyone with your child unlike those days when anyone can just cal on a neighbor without fear.. these days, we leave in high fenced houses with strong iron gates...so...whatever
ReplyDeleteFiiyin
lets call a spade a spade for truths sake. Is there any man who wants to be with an inactive woman... i mean a liability.. someone who doesnt want to do any form of work...? im sure there is none, if the answer is a no.. shouldnt the men just support the woman more in this aspect and stop packing all the blames to our doorstep?
ReplyDeleteIfy,Owerri
Dear friends,please this is a serious case o,thank you Bondedhome for raising this issue,I once heard. Of the story of how a certain nanny in the west changes on constant occasion to snake the moment the mother leaves for work,according to the testimonies neighbours gave,they said they usually notice that the 4mths old baby starts crying 30mins after the mum leaves and doesn't stop the an hours time,to when the mother comes,then the mother noticed that the babys runs temperature and always sleeping when she comes around,eventually she started hearing neighbours testimonies of how the baby cries while she is away,so she decidd to come back to the house in preytence that she forgot sometin,my people,she saw this gigantic snake with the head of the nanny round her baby who was already seriously crying at this momemt,the alarm she raised afterwhich she fainted.I heard the child eventually died and the Nanny is no where to be found till date,let's be careful pls
ReplyDeleteOlabisi Mrs
This is unbelievable,I am resigning from my job immediately,this is an eye opener Bondedhome thank you very much
ReplyDeletehmmmmmm...na wa o. pikin wey person suffer carry for 9months...God please protect our children whenever we are not there with them.
ReplyDeleteBisola, Ojodu
@Mrs komolafe.. resign? just like that? haba. just find a more secured way around it. you need the money too remb? abeg i cant laff.
ReplyDeleteI heard that snake story too but didn't believe it,so its true,God save us o
ReplyDeleteBimbo usman
Mrs komolafe... share your experience lets perharps suggest to you how to handle it better than resigning.
ReplyDeleteI'd rather start business,I can't be a stay @ home mum,I will have my shop,run my business by dat way I can support my husband @ d same time care adequately for my kids
ReplyDeleteNo one can love a child unconditionally like the mother does...its just a natural phenomena... come to think of it... even when mothers spank the child, its still out of love... if its an unconditional love, why do people get paid to take care of other peoples children?
ReplyDeleteHmmm, this discuss has got me thinking seriously...these children should do and come and grow up fast.
ReplyDeleteI can't stop screaming ooo,God what kind of thing is this,this life is filled with mysteries
ReplyDeleteI would rather come to blogs like this where I am closer to reality than going to blogs where they talk about fake celebrities mcheeeewww
ReplyDeleteEhnnn,not after the labor room experience,I will eat that nanny raw,she would wiah our part never crossed I tell you,I will so deal with her,she go forget her first name
ReplyDeleteI have read everybodys comment,and this is my decision,just like the biblica teketekemene afasin,it is visible to the blind and audible to the deef,Nanny is a no no no for me
ReplyDeleteI can't laugh oh some people would rather go through the stress and pain of becoming a vampire,why don't you just help your head,stay at home bond with your child and save everybody the trauma of a manifested Demonised Nanny
ReplyDeleteIts really strange how things are going,guess the would is actually coming to an end o,becos no where is actually safe,when u have fathers who molest their kids,who then is a nanny to be trusted with kids?I would rather stay with my children
ReplyDelete@MelVin that was a good comment,no where is even save,so what do we do?Turn to God for protection over our kids he has the all seing eyes
ReplyDeleteHmmm God is our only hope of protection,a wise couple would always tell God to send his arm of protection on the children
ReplyDeleteNo crime in believing in God but every should consciously plan to secure his family...after all God would not come down and take care of you and your family in person. Zion, Abakaliki
ReplyDeleteHmmm,one thing i have learnt in life is not to trust anybody but urself. bcos if you trust someone with ur child, then get ready for the music.Instead of nanny, i would insist that my wife seats at home until our children can take care of themsekves
ReplyDeleteEmeka Agwu, Idiiroko,Lagoa
Women of these days have become lazy. When we were being brought up, there was nothing like housemaid or nanny or whatever you called them now. My mother was the one who single-handedly raised us while my father was always at sea. These days you even see women who hang their children in front all because they dont want to tie wrapper and look old. I never supported that idea at all.
ReplyDeleteKelivn Umeh, JP
jp,u dey vex? why you no still dey ride bicycle
ReplyDeleteMy criteria for choosing a nanny would be very strict.1. I have to know her family...before someone can start having access to my children, i must be sure that the person is from an ideal home nd she has managed and catered for children before. After which i would now check her religoius life...if possiblem..i know where she worships. Finally, she would do a medical check up for me to be sure tHat she is okay. With theSe, i ll leave the rest to God. Oladimeji, Ilorin
ReplyDeleteInstead of employing a nanny that would bring me harm,i ll use a younger relative...someone connected to me by blood.
ReplyDeleteBut is everyone saying that there are no good nannies out there?
ReplyDeleteEdna, Jos
Good job here...bondedhome
ReplyDeleteHaving a nanny is not a bad idea. So long as you can monito them very closely...unannounced visits,some ppl even use hidden cameras and all. I saw one very disturbing video of one chinese maid beating a child helplessly. Its bcos the parents monitored home thru the camera thats why it was visible.
ReplyDeleteHarrison, Lagos
Their services have come to stay. How many Oga at the tops wife can do without a nany or houseboy or girl or cheff. Shey na me wen never chop na im go pay nanny? Nany ko, nany ni.
ReplyDeleteIts not as easy as we all see it,u need money to take of dis kids,in a situation where u both av jobs I feel its right one sacrifies for d kids so dey grow in a way u know,and not d ways of d nannies u av no idea of even with all d due process u with tru to get them.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm. In Ades shoe, i ll use more than a knife...
ReplyDeleteAs much as I love my children, I also love myself and I can't imagine myself being a housewife. Nannies and househelps are most times a neccessity. I only pray we don't fall into bad hands...they make good petty thieves too, talkless of husband snatchers. Daycares and infections nko? Another story for another day. Make God help us! Margaret (Umuahia).
ReplyDeleteCompanies should look into the welfare of their staff. Having a mini daycare/nursery should be considered seriously as it will even encourage the staff to put in more effort into running the company. The rate at which children are abused now is heartbreaking. Am even scared leaving my child with a nanny considering all the horrible things they do. God help us.
ReplyDeleteInteresting discuss! Everyone has and is entitled to an opinion. Well I do believe nannies have their place is some homes. So it is the duty of the couple to decide if they "require" one. Also, choice should be made as to whether the nanny should be there full-time or part-time. Personally, I encourage the use of a nanny service. This because it gives the couple less stress and more time that they can commit into providing for the nuclear family.
ReplyDeleteMy childhood involved nannies and I guess I was fortunate to never suffer any form of abuse. I must mention that I do believe the presence of my grandmother as a watch-guard may have been a key index to my being treated fairly by the nannies we had at different times. Besides, I was never and am still not a troublesome person!
On the issue of day care centers; investigate the history of the center before taking your child(ren) to such places and also ask to look at their care policy and staff profile. Upon request such materials are made available.
Thank you to @bondedhome. This is really a commendable effort at making the home bond tighter!
Emma Odia
www.twitter.com/Im_yearn
Hmmmmmmn! Nannies r necessary evils. Weather u r an housewife or career woman, really u need dem wen d children r bcome two,three. Bt 1st ting u v 2 do b4 gettin one is 2 pray very hard,let God direct u&also u can talk 2 ur pastor abt it. Wit dat,u r sure u wil b makin a rite choice&u keep close eyes on her. May God help us.
ReplyDeleteSent from my BlackBerry® smartphone
What do u expect? It is not an incredible story! For in any course there is an effect. The Bible had it, Parents train up ur Children in d way they should grown, so that whn they get younger they will not depart from it. Today Nannies are training our Children for us, through d processs, They introduc them into diverse art that is inimical to human existence. I think d idea of Nany should be addresss by the govnt, human right organizatns, Churchs and there should be a law strictly implemnted on dis imoral behavour.
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