"Ken my son, Just go
on your knees and say sorry, its the magic word" my mother advised.
"Why should I say sorry when I am not actually guilty, I asked her too?
My parents never let us
have peace while we we're growing...one of those turbulent and dramatic days of
theirs, they got into a fight as usual and my father was pouncing ruthlessly on
her... He had a belt which he used on her bare back and then went for a grip on
her neck...trying to suffocate her...I got scared and made attempt to defend my
mother...at first,
I thought it would end as a mere squabble but I was rudely
shocked when my father tried squeezing life out of her...he tried choking her.
I rushed at him, shoved him off and he faced me...We started fighting...
I FOUGHT MY FATHER DEFENSIVELY FOR MY MOTHER'S SAKE.
As we struggled, I pushed him very hard...he fell and got up limping.
To my greatest surprise,
my mother turned against me...she started shouting at me, "why would you
do that? "Why would you fight your father?" My mother raged amidst
her tears..." I did it for you Mama, you would have been killed if I
didn't stop him..." While we bantered, my father shows up, boiling in
anger...he says "Park your things and get out of my house you
bastard...even your mother can follow you"
I have not seen my father
for over two years now, I visit my mother at her shop when I feel like and I
also heard that my father told my siblings that he has disowned me.
So far, I understand my action has availed my mother relative peace; at least there are no more physical assaults on her...
and now she wants me to apologize to him. Truth is that I don't feel any guilt.
I am not sorry either...why should I apologize? I am really confused...what
should I do bondedhome? I don’t believe in apologizing when you are not guilty.
What's your take on this issue?
Is an apology well-worth it?
Should his mum have turned against him?
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You shouldn't have fought your father, I understand u had to stop him from killing ur Mom but u could have done that without fighting him. U need to apologize before it becomes a generational curse. I do not support ur father's action but still ur action is worse. Apologize and ask for forgiveness before ur own son starts beating u. Believe me I've seen this happen before.
ReplyDeleteSo unfortunate,the word of God is clear on this,its admonitions are right,the words are two edge sword,the scriptures says":Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
ReplyDeleteHonour thy father and mother; ( which is the first commandment with promise; )
That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." so the father crosed the limit when he decided to punch their mother in presence of a grown up young man
Well, no matter how wrong your father is, he's still your father. You can't change it, neither can he change the fact that you're his son. Summon courage, keep everything aside and apologize to him. You may be surprised to see guilt and shame on his face. He's your father.
ReplyDeleteAgain! Well for d sake of father n son relationship, i think he shld jus apoligize especially since hez thot d father a lesson n d mother seems to ve made peace.
ReplyDeleteMay we not fail our kids to the point they turn on us. Very pathetic story.
ReplyDeleteDevil at work. The boi should swallow his pride n try make peace with father n d whole family should make peace n b united.
ReplyDeleteDevil at work. The boi should swallow his pride n try make peace with father n d whole family should make peace n b united.
ReplyDeleteJust go ahead nd say sorry to ur father cos u hv no right to fight ur father,understand u did it to save ur mother thank God ur father has learnt his lesson.
ReplyDeleteFighting your father on this matter isn't bad but can still apologise for principle sake.
ReplyDeleteI hope this few hint will sum the whole problem. Both the father, son, mother and the entire family. The hint is "Love Conquereth all things". Thanks.
ReplyDeleteMy sympathy goes to the boy, just say sorry to your father
ReplyDelete"Children obey ur parents IN D LORD..." Not outside d Lord. D demon dat got into d man may nt hv left him till he strangled d mother. Is d boy suposd to live wit d thot dat he cld hv don something to save his mom? D father hd no right to beat d mother n there he "...provoked his son to wrath". Do I agree wit a son beating/fighting his father? No, except u r fighting 4 like. D son, 4 d sake of peace n heaven shld go n apologize to his father, dat is the part he must play
ReplyDeleteIt is absolutely wrong for any man to beat his wife.Son i beg of u in d name of the living God we serve apologise to ur dad though i know u were trying to save ur mum but u need to apologise from the sincerity of ur heart.
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