“Mehn...my wife is really
getting on my nerves. I have tried many times not to raise my fist against
her...but I am not sure my patience would last longer. I don't know how you
handle this in your home ...but is a man supposed to be involved in house chores?
I mean washing dishes, doing laundry, scrubing and mopping, going to market,
sweeping, fetching water and all that...
For Gods sake, I work
tirelessly all day just to bring comfort to them. Yet, she still expects me to
join her in doing the house chores when I come back from work.
Precisely, the incidence
that made me rage was that...unusally, food was not ready after I have had my
shower and as a hungry man is an angry man...I requested for my food with a
loud voice...in short, I yelled for my food...Lo and behold, my wife in tears
was yelling back at me.."am I a slave in this house?, she lashed out and
immediately a feel of irritation at her response gushed in my system as I felt
like giving her an instant cure to her show of pathetic displeasure.
Yes, I was called from
work that our only son was down with fever in school, but I was in an important
board meeting that I couldn't go out of so I called her up to attend to the
child. But that was since 11am. So how does that connect or disconnect from my
meal by 9pm?
My wife continued
"You haven't even asked after the boy...how it went at the hospital and so
on, you are here screaming for food like a baby" I was mad at her...very
mad. "Look at the kitchen, the plates, the boy's clothes, the floor...everywhere
and everything is just unkept because you this man would not assist in
anyway...please stop all this noise you make of work work work...this house is
ours not mine" “I work too”
By this time, my hand was
up...to land on her idiotic face...if not for my son looking sick and I wouldn't want further drama. She told me
point-blank that I am not satisfying her
in any way. Then I started wondering what on earth she wanted that I had not
provided…what do women really want?
My mother in the village
never harrased my father to join her in the kitchen. It appears women of these
days are getting too lazy, over-sophisticated and pretentious. Haba.
Please tell me what business
I have with the house chores?
What's a man's place with
house chores?
What do Women really want
from men,when it comes to house chores?
Too bad, how men, still see women of these days as those sex slaves and house helps that our fore fathers had then and referred to as wives, miss treated them and never even allowed them have a say in matters that concerns them the most. Well all that have changed cause education and exposure has cured our women of all those intimidations, they now know their worth and values, so pls let the men help out in house chores, cause as much as they work, most women work too, and are tired too when they come back from work. There's nothing wrong in helping out in house chores as long as it is done with love and the understanding of (it is our home) and that should not make the woman to forget her major role in the home too, so it's vise vassal.
ReplyDeleteI agree wit chigbundu. Men re suppose to help wit house chores. Gone re d days wen women re seen as slaves in d name of marriage. They couple should see themselves as one. Learn to undastnd, respect, love n assist each oda. Wit dt marriage will get beta.
ReplyDeleteThis is a sensitive issue. I believe this couple should try to employ a help at home. The woman might have had a terrible day at work, coupled with taking care of her sick child. Secondly, she should have informed her hubby ahead that there is no dinner ready... I mean, how does she expect a hungry man to feel at 9pm when told no food and no other alternative arrangement. Sincerely most men won't take that rubbish. Meanwhile, Mr Hungry man, it's unfair to compare your mum with your wife. You said it all...she is in the village... answering to no boss, clients, city madness et al. Couples should find a meeting point in their marriages and all this chores and duties will balance out effortlessly. Please, ladies don't be fast in supporting the Mrs, because we own the tool that makes and will make our marriage work. I rest my case. Cheers. Margaret.
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ReplyDeleteAssistance, compassion and appreciation.the screptures says that a good wife wakes up early,prov.31:10-16,26-31;they are both heirs together. The woman based on the bible is made for the man, Gen 2:21-23;1cor.11:3,8,9,12
ReplyDeleteMr man,shut up,shut up pls...u nid no soothsayer to tell u dat women of dese days r juggling more dan der lifespan can tke.I understnd dat u might b angry ur food isn't ready,but comparin her to ur mother?dats d height of totlessness,u know u should help,pls dnt wait fr anybody to tell u frst,pls,dnt wait till u loose ur bestfriend
ReplyDeleteFor me, helping out in the kitchen is Totally Optional for Men and Husband. I ve seen a family wea the man helps his wife in the kitchen, but not all the time, it's esp on Saturdays. Finally if the woman claims that for the fact that she works too, thus house chores should be shared, She the crase, infact she should Quit her Job since her husband is capable. She should not hold it against my Man. I'm convinced that even God and church will support me.
ReplyDeleteFoolish man, ask God for a role reversal and I pray by d time u're done taking u wife's place u'll have to wait for nine months to deliver d pregnancy u just carried.
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