I was at a wedding over the weekend and I
witnessed a scenario that not only stunned
me but left me thinking. You should read this and give a second thought before
sending your child off to the West...
Before I let you in, look at these questions. When is the best time to send your
child abroad? Is it from childhood? After secondary school or after graduating
from University? What are the challenges raising African Children abroad?
As the wedding reception unfolded and
everyone dinned and wined, a very beautiful, polish skinned, foreign accented
woman walked briskly outside trying to receive a call. Suddenly, we heard a
very loud scream...she drew attention, her husband had joined her, picked up
the phone too and with a foreign accent started yelling. “What is it, what is
it Nina?... What did you say to your mum Nina?” Nina called Nigeria to tell her
parents that her only sister, Nino had just drugged herself and she is no
longer breathing; and she dropped a note claiming she had to “did what she did”
because her parents would not let her marry the Indian guy, she truly
loves...the love of her life.
No matter where the child is raised, isn't
it the parents duty to train up the child in God's way?
Despite our "leadership"
situation in Africa, it appears we still have high moral values compared to
other parts.
Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 29:15
The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
Proverbs 13:24
Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he
who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
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After your first degree you can now go to abroad, because the children out their lack manners they do not listening to what their parents are saying.
ReplyDeleteI think a child should be very much riped going abroad after his or her secondary education. Cos such tme here would avail a child opportunities learn our african morals. Thank you
ReplyDeleteProvers 22 : 6 says it all. When a child is brought up in Gods way and the parents are also God fearing ih helps. 1st Corinthians 15: 33 says that "Bad association spoils useful habits" So parents should know who their children's associates are and protect them from such ones.
ReplyDeleteMost of what forms a child's future behaviour r obviously perceived from what is built into that child before his habits n behaviours solidify. In building, I mean what he is taught to perceive as right or wrong, God's intervention remaining constant. The book of all wisdom clearly stated this in PROVERBS 22:6., preferably the Amplified version. In d cause of his development, foolishness n inquisition may want to make him explore some negativities, but in most times, he realises who he really is n where he came from.
ReplyDeleteSo I strongly opine that a child should be brought up elementarily in d right way (GODLY WAY). When godliness is properly planted in him, he will not really cause a nuisance while away from home ( age of leaving home not withstanding ) . Therefore, friends, whether ABROAD or INBROAD, do d little but life saving assignment of TRAINING A CHILD IN THE WAY HE SHOULD GO (GOD'S WAY ).
VICTOR.
i concur to d fact that its always better to bring u ur child morally in d way of God bfor u.send dem out to d western culture where de get spoilt.
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Every child actually needs the their parents in their lives to guide and lead them, its even a dangerous decision to let your kids out of ones sight for a long period,especially to the western world.
ReplyDeleteI have heard stories where the innocent child who was sent Abroad for a better life especially in the Educational aspect ends up getting involved in a gang fight and loosing his life as an only so, so this is my advise,a child should have come off age perhaps to the University Level,then you can decide to send him or her Abroad for Masters or even PHD, that's better, at this stage they child can hardly get involve in wrong doing anything wrong,because at this age they know their wrong from their right
ReplyDeleteThe fact still remains that it's not 100% right to raise children abroad, because there constitution and some of dia laws restrict parents to some extent in training dia children. I think it's wise to raise children here. Atleast after this first degree, they can now be sent abroad if at all the need arise. Thank you Admin for this post. Thumbs up.
ReplyDeleteTo me, no time is bad. The bad thing is the carelessness of the parent(s)...loose hands.
ReplyDeleteOGBONNAYA. Does that mean all the children raised abroad are spoiled children ? Definitely no. A child that wants to spoil and secures the opportunity to do so, will definitely become a disaster whether home or abroad. * Some children from abroad, when they visit home, have better moral value than kids at home. It is not totally about location, it is all about choice; primarily that of the parents. PROVERB 22:6. *It is not healthy to let children run their life whether home or abroad. HERE is my point, wherever you find yourself, train your kids there. If you prefer another location, relocate with them. Until they are ready for university life, don't let them run their life, it is risky.
ReplyDeletelets us not pretend about it please. ASK THEM THAT LIVE ABROAD, they have a very difficult time contending with laws and what have you, prohibiting them from disciplining their children the ways they want to. hence the children grow with some level of care-free freedom that leaves them begging to be schooled in morals and manners. in Africa, every chlld belongs to the society. I prefer the children becoming of age before any Western journey.
ReplyDeleteSammy Uba
We cant totally put the blame on the parents. I think each child is responsible parttly or maybe greatly for whom he or she would bdcome tomorrow
ReplyDeleteIf every parent realizes that whatever their child become is 100% dependent on what they as parent do, they should be able to make better decisions on this.
ReplyDeleteI have heard of parent blaming their children for a failure or the other. The truth is a failure of the child is a failure of the parent. Haven said this, my opinion is that a child must be under the full influence of the parent (daddy and mummy) for the first 16 years of his life home or abroad but because of the limitations of abroad, its wiser here. However don't think that raising the child here automatically make him/her a good child. If you raise your child here and you don't give your full attention, the child may still go the bad way. My emphasis is For The First 16 Years, Don't Let Your Child Out Of Your Sight!!!
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Lolz! it dosnt mata wia u raise ur babies,in or outside ,home or abroad.wat wil b wil definately b,no mata d environment,hehe!funny though, personally I prefer raising dem in abroad!!lolzz Uche Ben Jnr
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I would rather that the child is home grown before exposure to those strange oyibo culture
ReplyDeleteThe issue is this"u can't give what u don't have" a parent who goes not HV a proper training cannot raise a child properly.... Thus is eating deep into our society...apart from education, there is nothing really worth it to send the children there.
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