Please
correct me if you have seen any where a large polygamous family is devoid of
strife, envy, rivalry, constant rancour and epileptic peace. Polygamy by
the Nigerian law, where couples are married by the court is viewed as a punishable
offence called bigamy. Nigerianizing it
further, the economy doesn't encourage it and it is also authoritative that
Christianity teaches that "and two shall become one", the court is
also against it, only Islam permits it yet with a noble condition- that you
love all wives equally. How then can one love two or more women equally?
The effects
of polygamy goes beyond the individuals involved. Dont forget that they have
been through a lot of emotional and financial insecurities, hence they tend to
become carriers of bad-blood, always ready to attack, create unnecessary
violence, malice breeders, commotion peddlers… this is because they grew under
a very tensed environment.
Naturally, they
extend it to others and then the society at large. It is not uncommon to find
irresponsible fathers who still chase some young ladies out there while they
recklessly abandon their own overpopulated polygamous homes. (I dont know if
you have seen Fuji House of Commotion- that is a comic version of the reality)
Bondedhome is of the opinion that if this trend is checked,
some bad-blood breeders would be avoided and families will experience more peace to the favour of the society.
1. Simply
give your take on how to make a successful polygamous home? Shocked? Okay, give
your take on how polygamy can be managed?
2. What are
the advantages of polygamy?
3. What are
the disadvantages of polygamy?
4.Does the
Advantages outweigh the disadvantages and vice versa?
5. Which is
the lesser evil, a nuclear family with an affair or a full fledged polygamous
setting?
6.
Sincerely, which do you prefer. Nuclear or polygamous?
The floor is
now opened.
I am no subscriber to polygamy at all. There is no phrase as lesser evil. comparing an affiatr with a full fledged polygamous home. None is better. One man one wife anyday.
ReplyDeleteWhy give myself multiple problems when I can actually live peacefully with my single wife? Whatever the issue is would be resolved, thinking of polygamy is not an option,my head would be filled with grey hair in no time
ReplyDeleteHmmm there is nothing like lesser evil,its actually suicidal
ReplyDeleteNice one bondedhome,good choice of words,quite explicit I must say too,but there are no advantages in poligamy,it brings rivalry at it's peak and the seed of discord is sown eventually,count me out
ReplyDeleteAhhh I remember Fuji house of commosion well,it is indeed a caricature seriously,no advantage in polygamy at all,it brings sadness and division to a family
ReplyDeleteOn point oh @ bonded home,strong point,I am currently in a polygamous home and I ask myself what brought me here,I am in a deep mess I won't want my enemies here @ all
ReplyDeleteI came out of a polygamous home,its a war front there everybody guarding their territory,fierce lions and lionesses, outdoing one another,my mother died in polygamy too,not long her father died too out of food poisoning,lost 6members of my family as I speak, I have vowed to fight polygamy the the last drop in me,please nobody should every thing of even having an extra-marital affair,that is what leads to polygamy
ReplyDeleteTo me nothing is wrong in polygamy ooo,afterall you would have many women to trouble shoot,candidly
ReplyDelete@ ifeanyi you are a FOOL, you sound like a small boy, so all your head is thinking is how to trouble shoot, mcheeewww I pity you,you will just die before your age...stupid boy
ReplyDelete@kelvin you are an idiot and a small boy, Men are the ones who do polygamy, boys do Nuclear...go and hug the transformer
ReplyDelete@ ifeanyi...I pity you,I'd rather be a boy for this cause and live long life,my father died as a result of too much thinking,he had B.p eventually stroke...I am the bread winner of my home and I am just trying to help you clear that virus of polygamy from your head,my friend you are better off with a woman that will give you rest of mind
ReplyDeleteHmmm my lips are sealed ooo @ ifeanyi...the poor boy wants to dig his own grave,please be fast I want to eat in your burial
ReplyDeleteWell I see women as properties to be acquired,so if I decide to acquire same item over and over again,it's nobody's business
ReplyDelete@ mujid, your mother is a property, bastard,beast...go and acquire your sisters what are you waiting for
ReplyDeleteWe wish to ignore majid but hw can we help him, i think stella gave a good clue on that except i wld hv enjoyed it more if she was a bit mild but i dnt xpect dat knowin she's a woman. All i know is somebody has been thought that even in much to say on that, i will rather rest it. The point of talk is worst than suicide when its fruits emerges.
ReplyDeleteHow polygamy would work? There is no way. It should be avoided completely.
ReplyDeletePolygamy can't be managed. Is like starting what you can't finish.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm,it is actually a seruous issue,hv been der,am frm a polygamous family,u get to witness enviness,hatred,no peace to mention but a few,am sure ma dad is regretting his actions now,he had to advice all his male children to avoid been a polygamist,
ReplyDeleteAnd am sure any of our generation in his right senses will not even tink of been a polygamist,as 4 dat guy called IFEAYIN u will bite ur finger so hard in future if u try so help u "amadioha"
Azzizat akanji
@ stella , i don't blame you, pig like you,how dare you talk to me like that, you better accept me buying you, so that you won't get hold in market
ReplyDeletepolygamy is not a bad thing,as long as you know how to take your place as the man and control the women in your life
ReplyDeletewow, this is an interesting topic, it really caught my attention for once, polygamy is not an option at all, i'd rather stay single if given the option of marrying two wives or being single, after all some people are reverend fathers who maintain celebacy
ReplyDelete@ akanji i can never bite my finger at all, your father is bitting his finger because he didn't manage his wives properly. thank you it's my choice and decision
ReplyDeleteifeanyi or what is that your name, you are such an he-goat, ewu--mheeeeee, you want to trouble shot right? don't forget that HIV/AIDS is every where
ReplyDelete@ emmanuel, god purnish you times 100, you will be the one to catch aids
ReplyDeletethere is no success in polygamous home at all, i pity that young man who lost so many people to death as a result of polygamy, the truth still remains nobody gets into polygamy with the intention to,they end up blaming it on alcohol and eventually on the devil
ReplyDeleteMeshac
i feel for men who dig their own grave, because of they want to explore, eat varieties like they would say they don't want to keep eating egusi for the rest of their lives, i seriously think life should be more important, there is more to life than those irrelevant issues, there are no advantages at all in polygamy, ONE MAN ONE WOMAN IS THE BEST
ReplyDeletedamilola
islam permits it, yes, but every man to himself like 2face said, do what works for you, i am muslim and i must confess that the pressure to take a second wife is all around me, but my answer is NO, because i have to do what works for me, they won't contribute a dime to feeding the wives afteral, not gain in polygamy at all.
ReplyDeletemusty saheed
every feature found in one is found in the other,no additions, so why would i add more stress to my head
ReplyDeleteso there are still some sensible people in this world @ musty thanks for that comment
ReplyDeleteyes ahahahahahah, i remember fuji house of commosion, so hilarious but they are actually passing a salient point, polygamy is a ticking time bomb, its just a matter of time, it will surely expolde
ReplyDeletelesser evil, no way non is an option, both is from the same family
ReplyDeletenuclear any time any day
ReplyDeleteinteresting!!! and ADAM saw EVE not eve's and he said this is indeed the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh and she shall be called WOMAN, not women
ReplyDeleteAnd God said it is not good for the Man to be alone let's's make for him an HELP MEET not HELP MEET's, polygamy is suicidal, I tell you,, its a thicking time bome truely, there are no advantages, rather there is so much disadvantages to be copunted, live in peace with the wife of your youth, so says the bible
DeleteStella don't mind the idiot, a saying goes thus,a dog that would get missing would not heed to the hunters whistle, its a matter of time
ReplyDelete@ Aruna on point, you have a point, over time the fruit will be visible
ReplyDeleteIts a thing of choice o, but I have people around me who are bitting their fingers now because they ventured into polygamy, they are in deep regret
ReplyDeleteMy husband won't even try such am already a handful for him,he won't dare it, I will skin him alive
ReplyDeleteAhhh, those your questions are massive o,@ bondbetter, there is no advantage in polygamy nah, and both are evil there is no such thing as lesser evil, evil is evil
ReplyDeleteLike seriously? How to make a successful polygamous home, no way, I would prefare nuclear family please,there is no way on how to make a successful polygamus family, because it is not a right cause and it can never be successful
ReplyDeletePolygamy? Not with the present condition of this country I am still hustling to manage my wife and children, where would that come from...ahahhahahaha... I am laffing seriously ifeanyi I pity you
ReplyDeleteThe man in that picture with his four wives in white, they all look so stupid, I don't know why polygamists look so stupid when I see them
ReplyDeleteThat is to say, if the financial atmosphere in the country is agreeable, some people could do polygamy and enjoy it?
ReplyDeleteJoey, PH
Na only old papa dem dey marry two wives these days
ReplyDeletebro, there is nothing like lesser evil. polygamy, bigamy and all, they are all bad group of amys that can ruin a man anytime. stay away
ReplyDeletethe love of women is the beginning of polygamy
ReplyDeletei said the love of women, not the love of a woman o. Love only one woman and see yourself stay away from all wahala
ReplyDeleteMost people who are into polygamy did not plan to end up that way.it starys gradually. From a smile to a talk to a handshake...to a second wife
ReplyDeleteSome people are ready to die. Its not an issue if they die in the process of enjoyment
ReplyDeleteI am from a pokygmous home, people,my experience is not such that you want to have. Its was like death itself. Rivalry from childhood even till now.. Maturity has made us better pretenders though. Its smthn everyone shld run from.
ReplyDeleteThe only good thing that perharps happen in polygamous setting is that you might be lucky to have plently brothers and sisters...whether they hate you or love you is another topic entirely
ReplyDeleteAll na thesame, weda yellow or black, white , tall , short, the koko na dsame.so marry more than one
ReplyDeleteThings have really changed. When i was much younger, my father and all his friends had bets as to who had the largest number of children and the largest number of children. The larger the family the larger your harvest at the farm. If you ask me, i ll say they didnt make a wrong decision as their intentions was to grow their business with family members. These days, after ppl go to churches and take vos, they still cheat on their spouses and land in lustful relattnshps...its lust not business.
ReplyDeleteMoses Ogamba
No lesser evil Sir. Both are bad. One man, one wife
ReplyDeleteAdvantages of polygamy? Hmmmmmm. Lets see how tht goes...you ll have two mothers and plenty siblings...thats all. Disadvantages...enjoy the rivalry, it makes you strongerm
ReplyDeletePersonally i dont support polygamy in any way. The bible says and a man shal leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. Another fact that i ll like us to remember is that our fathers married many wives not out of what we call LOVE now. They arranged wives for them sometimes even without meeting the ladies more than once. So how do you blame those kind of people for being blindly courageous. That was also possible because the women where well trainned. Some of them were married as virgins. How many virgins are out there today. That aside, polygamy can work, it all depends on the ppl running it. Bondedhome. You are doing a great job.
ReplyDeleteah na wa o so if the koko is the same what is the correlation
ReplyDeleteoh rest in peace nelson mandela, all of you talking of polygamy, please go and create a legacy so people can remember you for good not for 20 concubines and 200 wives
ReplyDeleteinteresting comments here, wow, as for me every man to himself, you get what you want, if peace? stick to one if other wise please feel free to write your will before hand
ReplyDeleteAbdul
its mostly all this people with fake wealth, who tend to want to fool themselves with their wealth and go after polygamy, the extremely rich and comfortable don't even venture into it @ all, i'd rather be in the second class anytime anyday, and there actually no lesser evil, that is Adultery and every adulterous be will go to hell fire QED
ReplyDeleteplease and please, those thinking polygamy should desist, control your libido and emotions,stick to one woman and enjoy life there is no fun in polygamy except the running of things with more than one woman which is a temporal thing and can't be compared to your lasting joy and peace of bind
ReplyDeletemy religion permits polygamy, true but the truth is that most people who got swayed by the freedom of polygamy are in deep shit full of regret, my friend said to me when i nursed the thought of polygamy "Abdulhameen,if only i can turn back the hands of time i would live my live with one woman, but now it's too late, I am dying slowly. those words changed my views forever about polygamy, the memory became permanent when he was eventually committed to mother earth 3days after, he died of heart attack.
ReplyDeletepolygamy is an END TIME alert and confirmation of the bible, the bible said very soon 10 women would be dragging one man, that is why you see a desperate young girl who has clear eyesight to see that the man ia married with his bold wedding band yet would attempt seducing him
ReplyDeleteGod help us from all these troubles
ReplyDelete@ Brown, can you read what Ameen just wrote? It does not depend on who runs polygamy! Polygamy is evil, period!
ReplyDelete@chioma i think i agree with u, cos even nowadays some ladies having been told that a man is married , they still go extra mile to see weda they will take over. end time
ReplyDeletebut also talking about wot the admin said on how to manage polygamy, well i think that its beta to marry three instead of two, cos its always a certainty that two will be against one, thereby, subdue her to there will or the husbands will, it reduces quarrel.
ReplyDeleteI still cannot comprehend why men gpo after many women.
ReplyDeleteSome people had polygamous homes that did not come with casualties. So what's the fuss about it.if a man feels he can, why not?
ReplyDeleteThere is not lesser evil. Evil is evil. Having an affair is A while polygamous setting proper is B. Cheers. Wish you all the best.
ReplyDeleteEdidiong
I have observed that men don't seem to have a problem with polygamy at all. I'm sure it s because women are not allowed to have more than one wife..-in fact, we are not created to function that way. How and what would a man claim he wants that he cannot get from his woman? Its simply lust and lust alone.
ReplyDeleteMary