Dear reader, last week was very
explosive as our discussion almost got some people going physical if it were
possible, but Thank God it all remained textual.
To some people, ‘’Bank Wedding’’ may
not appear troublesome, but judging from our economy, per capita income and
the fact that it is almost compulsory that people get married properly, I mean
religiously in front of God and man, the topic might pose a real threat to
happiness for others.
My wife is an Events Manager and
she is always flanked by intending couples. Mostly, she is involved in the
planning from scratch to the D-Day. One evening, I found myself looking through
her bag for something... don't ask me what...**winks**and I came across this
very alarming wedding budget...the budget stood at 15.5M, whatttt? and wowwww!!!!
at same time, i giggled; within me, i rejoiced..."Money Cometh..." So
i quickly removed that one and started thinking ahead for wifee, how she would
really satisfy this very big client. As soon as she came, I asked " Babe,
you didnt mention this big client to me, the one with the 15.5M budget"
She started laughing..."Don't mind them, the guy just got a job with a bank
and the lady is a receptionist in a construction company, they can't raise that
kind of money. Infact, we have been on this issue of budget for a very long
time , whenever I talk of pruning it down, the man would say, they don't have
the money but they are believing God, they are trusting that people would
donate towards the wedding lavishly when the time is very close"...
I was shocked to hear
these...
I gathered that the couple seem
to be of the opinion that wedding is a once-in-life-time event and it has to be
memorable even if it means taking a loan to make it happen. This idea sounds
very bizarre as It is no longer news that these days, many couples have had to
spend their first six to twelve months sorting out loans and still paying for
services rendered to them during their wedding, thus setting in a very
unpleasant time, full of depression.
Why would anyone because of a
borrowed culture in the name of white wedding break the bank and go hungry knowing that everyone would walk away after enjoying your barbecue and perhaps give you
gifts like shower caps, warmers, shaving sticks, toothpaste, dirt parkers and
may be one or two real gifts like freezers etc?
Many eligible men and women
remain single today because they have made the society their standard, they
would rather meet up with the expectations of other people than accept their
cadre and just be prudent about their wedding plans...
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| Behold thee, thy list...Goodluck |
QUESTIONS
How much financial attention
should we accord the white-wedding considering that we are not ‘’whites’’?
Which one should supercede the
other, traditional wedding or white wedding ?
When would you consider a wedding
an extravagant one ?
Would you take a loan for a
wedding ?
The floor is now open.
The floor is now open.
I think is high time we employ only Court wedding, since both white and traditional wedding is giving us reason to go bankrupt
ReplyDeleteEven traditiona marriage shud be really coutioned cos after all dose costly List, it now seems they are selling dia daughter
ReplyDelete"One evening, I found myself looking through her bag for something... don't ask me what...**winks**" Boss; You found yourself ke? You wan make us accomplices! What were you looking for? Confess here now before we report you **laughing**
ReplyDelete"Whenever I talk of pruning it down, the man would say, they don't have the money but they are believing God, they are trusting that people would donate towards the wedding lavishly when the time is very close"
N15.5m **eyes pop out of sockets** and the groom is involving God in the matter. Damn! The bank better get rid of such an incredulous unrealistic liability. Such people take out loans that they may never repay (that is if the bank even knows). God didn't give Adam that kind of money to marry Eve. In fact, she was made to complete mankind not bring undue cost to living (though she actually did). The wife from my perspective is a spendthrift, because it is actually bills from the bride that constitutes the actual bulk of expenses for a wedding ceremony.
"Cut your coat according to your cloth". At the end of the day you might just discover what you think might be enough for a jacket can only get you a waistcoat. But, you can still wear your tie, whether waist coat or suit jacket and look good.
Are the couple sure they are ready for a married life or do they just want to celebrate only wedding. Please help me ask them.
At the end of the day, "na me get ma mouth sha, na dem get dia own"
Emma Odia
www.twitter.com/Im_yearn
No wonder many are single today
ReplyDelete15.5M 4 a weddin?????d tin is nobody is tellin dem d truth,ur wife shld advice dem accordingly n professionally,I had d luxury of doin an elaborate weddin,ma fada in law is very rich,I just decided to do a small n classy weding,EXTREMELY SMALL we did not spend up to 600k,everybody was happy @ d end of d day,d thruth is d amount u spend on ur wedding does not determine if d marriage will last 4eva,we hv seen celebrities,socialiate dat hv spent billions on wedding,@ d end of d day,d marriage does not last 4 up to a year,ma candid advice,d couple shld do registry n a small reception afterwards,dey will b hapi @ d end.........
ReplyDeleteKenny
Me think that anyone or a couple that would want to have a wedding with a budget far beyond their financial ability, has a problem with EGO!!!
ReplyDeleteElse, tell me, why would you rob a bank to impress people.
I advise that more be spent on the marriage and not the wedding.
What madness,I would rather remain single than spending so much money to get a bride
ReplyDeleteFor Goodness sake why can't some people cut their coat accordingly,must they want to show the have so much,its really not about the wedding,but the marriage @ the long Run
ReplyDeleteCrap,she would work back the money,I swear
ReplyDeleteI don't blame families who put so much price on their daughter,as much as she isn't for sale she also is not for dash,so if the man know she is worth the trouble, why not
ReplyDeleteThere should be boundaries,I frown at elaborate wedding receptions and all but the traditional demands should be met to the latter even if that is the only thing they would do,after which dey move over to Court and go back home to a little reception
ReplyDeleteI would rather do the little I can do and give my wife the best at home,it really doesn't make sense to empty your account on the ground of such elaborate wedding
ReplyDeleteSinglehood is fun....God forbid me do such wedding...please does anybody have a small pin charger...
ReplyDeleteThis is incredible,it beats my imagination....ahahahahahhahahahaha am laughing,I hope such family have enough room to accomodate their Old Daughters whom their parents has used list to chase off
ReplyDeleteTraditional wedding can't be scrapped out,the only thing that should be discouraged in its actuall sense is the Elaborate white wedding,another man's tradition
ReplyDelete@happiness,you are correct,even the whites plan their budget acordingly,strictly by invitation,not like we africans,you would start seeing guest who you don't even know,feeding close to 5,000 people abeg I no be Jesus christ o
ReplyDeleteYeparipaa,1 truck of Guiness stout,as how,infact wedding cancelled,I can't get married to a family of drinkers
ReplyDeleteSome people are so funny,I pity that Man,at least if he is not wise with spending he should get a woman who is prudent,why are they such wasters...what are to trying to proove and to whom,I pity them
ReplyDeleteI won't even advise my enemy to pick up a loan for wedding ceremony,its completely a useless effort
ReplyDeleteThat is why as a man who is set for marriage,NEVER create a false impression of yourself to the Lady and even her people,ones you are certain she is the one,Be real and you won't get into the mess of trying to impress to hide yourself
ReplyDeleteDaughter FOR SALE...
ReplyDelete15.5m=15 containers=40million naira gain,china here I come
ReplyDeleteEven if I have such money to throw around,its uncalled for absolutely
ReplyDeleteSuch spending is not a guarantee of a happy marriage and even lasting one,so why spend so much,I'd rather set her up with the money so she can be her own boss and she can pay attention to her family
ReplyDeleteit is very easy to say they are big soenders or that they cant cut their cloth according to their size, you people are the ones that would still say, why did they do it that way? they couldnt just do something befeating, are they so poor.. Yoruba say, enu araye lebo
ReplyDeletei know a tribe in Nigeria that even if it takes 50yrs before they get married they would until they are really comfortable. although it doesnt always work that way. every couple should just prepare well,if they really care about what people think of them.before they take the step
ReplyDeleteAfterall, some peeps just give the girl belle and no big party and they lived happily ever after.
ReplyDeleteWell, for weddings, i am not against anyone making it very cool, i mean big, since its meant to be only once in a life time and you want to have very good memories of that day. but i strongly advice that more attention should be paid to the marriage itself.
ReplyDeletewhich kind list be this one????????????????????? olololololololololooool
ReplyDeleteno kola, no alligator peppe, na blackberry and mikano gen, this family must be thieves
ReplyDeletei am of the opinion that traditional marriage should supercede the white wedding. First, we are not oyinbos, its a borrowed culture and with our natural way of doing things better than the inventors, we have now prioritise white wedding more than the traditional wedding. have you ever seen a white man do a traditional wedding after the whiteone. the ans is No. that is because the white wedding is his own traditional wedding. thank you. i stand to be corrected.
ReplyDeletehmmmm, taking a loan for a wedding is not a wise idea at all
ReplyDeleteFor me, if the cash is there, fine. But if the capital is not enough for extravagant ceremony, do as much as you hand can carry and quit from making your own grave with your own hand in the name of wedding ceremony of any type. A word is enough for the wise.
ReplyDeletePeopla are free to their choices viz a viz their pockets. People have really sounded poor here.
ReplyDeleteMarcus
Once a weddign cost more than you can readily afford, then it is overspending for me.
ReplyDeleteU know say Naija sabi copy well well, copy pass the people wey start the culture sef.
ReplyDeleteTell yourself the truth
ReplyDeleteTake a loan for a wedding? outrageous. what would i now take for the marriage?
ReplyDeleteOpe
Come to think of it, things have really changed. it is thesame thing as when your brother who was governor going broke, would you ask him why he is broke? in short the society architects these corruption, fake lives and all. even if it doesnt begin it, it sure is a fertile ground for it to grow. ridiculous.
ReplyDeleteTo prepare financially over time is not a bad idea, what is craxy is the loan taking part. i cant enourage that, its a way to make the family very hungry afterwards. caution couple. Bondedhome, nice one
ReplyDeleteThese ones thinkits childs play.. my dear, dont waste your money satisfying people than satisfying yourself. Afyer they eat your food they lll all take off and your journey begins
ReplyDeleteblackberry phones for marriage list? this miust be some big joke.
ReplyDeleteI read a lot and surf a lot...tryna learn alws abt everyfin happening in the polity and beyond. On one occassion, I overheard someone say the white wedding is the white man's culture and dats it. For Africa or precisely nigeria, traditional wedding is our culture dats why cultures are freely exhibited (inter tribal marriages) and that shld jus be it...wu says u can't have a Pastor bless the marriage there and then (I totally concur). Going into white wedding after the traditional is like marrying her twice! Must we copy the white man's ways? To consider spending more than u can afford is plain STUPID. May be I shld jus get married on a monday morning 8am - 10am and we out wit our lives. There's more to life than frivolities! The ish is the women, alws wanting to impress their friends! May God help the bachelors, Amen! Joshe El-Mero (Lagos) - @merotiwon1
ReplyDeletePeople have placed undue attention on white weddings. To me, its just a show off. Whats is ours is the traditional marriage. Can you imagine, two weddings and two receptions...
ReplyDeleteI won't advise anyone to do this but will support a guirdian or financer to go for loan in support of any r
DeleteWhat is creating waste in marriage isn't the White ideal. Is our refusal t̶̲̥̅̊ø̲̣̣̥ be really and plan based on our living standard. Couples tend t̶̲̥̅̊ø̲̣̣̥ plan in anticipation or expectations and the abuse of divinity such as saying God is able t̶̲̥̅̊ø̲̣̣̥ will and t̶̲̥̅̊ø̲̣̣̥ do.
ReplyDeleteI can imagine why most eligible bachelors choose to remain single. Afterall how sure re u d wedding is gonna last.
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