BREAD WINNING...Not just Winning Bread...(Should or Should'nt women participate?)

BREAD WINNING… Not just Winning Bread

 

I work with a telecoms servicing company and to be sincere, I am not satisfied with what I take home. My take home pay, like that of most workers in the private sector is not enough to take me home.. If you ask me, I would say I bleed for every kobo that comes into my wallet. I don’t have the opportunity to add more zeros either by ommission or commission. If you understand what I mean.  

 

My wife, Suzan works in a bank and as God pleases, she earns far more than I can ever get even if I become a Manager at my office.  To the glory of God, I am very happy about that...You think I am kidding?...well I am not. I am really cool with it.

 

Suzan and I decided to share the financial commitments of our home. A feat I consider legendary...My salary proved sufficient only for the payment of the children's school fees and some petty miscellenous spendings that had to do with the children. We have two lovely daughters. We decided that Suzy would take care of the kitchen, fuel the cars and sort her upkeep.(This arrangement was reached mutually and bearing in mind, the ratio of her salary to mine)

 

The plan had remained successful until my company had a major set-back and salaries were not paid that month...the next and then, the next... We are still being owed..  This harsh time at work coincided with when our childrens’ school fees should hit the schools’ account. I couldn't cough out the money. I did everything possible, I even tried to borrow money but no one was willing to offer me a dime.

 

I had to fall back to my wife. I knew that would be some trouble. Before I even started my plea, she goes, "why haven't you paid the childrens' fees?” “How would I be able to pay when my salary has not been paid for three months?” I asked "Well, you really have to find a way to sort that out because I did not make plans for their school fees...that's about the only thing you cater for and you still cannot see to it” She lashed out... "Honey I am sorry but right now, we need the kids back in school, lets resolve this issue first before you blame me, please let's use some of your money" I tried to persuade.

 

“My what? Am I not doing enough?…don’t be unfair…please do whatever you need to do and get them back to school. I could assist, but I don’t have that covered in my budget and you know it” she fumed.  “Suzy, are you going to watch the children stay at home because of money?” "Lawrence"…she called me really sternly…she usually says “Law”. Lawrence.. this is the only thing you do in this house.. please get it done”

 

Desperate times call for desperate measures so  I decided to sell our laptop and my Z10 to save the situation. These are items that can fetch me money almost immediately and I can also replace them without much hassles “Let me use you for the last time” I said to the laptop. I turned it on and went online. I wished I sold it without turning it on. Suzy’s email was logged on… and I saw payment confirmations of transactions she made right after our conversation…a night ago...the online shops sent her mails on payment and delivery details…I was shattered. She bought expensive shoes, bags, weave-on, perfumes, office suits and gowns and they amount twice above what was required for our children's school fees… I never really checked how much she purchased her stuff as it was directly from her purse…should I have been poking my nose in that actually?

 

I am angry… I don’t know what to do. Am I at fault in any way? Please tell me before I go off the road…

 

 

 

 

 

BONDED HOME: MADAM VERSUS MISTRESS, HUSBAND REFEREES

BONDED HOME: MADAM VERSUS MISTRESS, HUSBAND REFEREES: Adanne has had it up to limit when she decided to look through her husband's phone...she needed to know why an adult man would be ...

SECURE YOUR CHILD'S FUTURE. DONT REPEAT YOUR PARENTS MISTAKE... Read this NOW

Dear Mummy,

Thank you for taking good care of me and thank you for going out every day to fend for me, but I also want you to be at home when I get back from school. I am tired of ‘’Aunty Sikira”. She cannot even speak correct English and every time, she will be putting salt in my food before I eat and she does not even wash her hands well. I am tired of her. Anytime her friend comes to the house, they will go inside your room and stay inside until I start shouting. I think he is her boyfriend. Mummy, if i tell you all the things aunty Sikira does to me when you are at work. Infact, i will tell you.

Mummy, I really understand that you and daddy are working to bring money to be able to take care of me by paying my school fees and giving me food, clothes and shelter…but I want more than that.   Holiday will soon start and I know you and daddy don’t get holidays like me, that means Sikira and I would be home all day. Mummy, I cant stay at home every day just like that.

Please promise you would grant this request I am about to make.    Mummy, Tunde, Olaitan, Shantel and Immaculate are my friends in school and they want to attend a SUMMER CAMP for children and teenagers between ages 4-19 where they would teach them the 3 arms of The Performing Arts which are music, dance and drama plus other Arts&Craft like Textile Design (Adire),Make Up, Drawing, Painting, decoration, etc. They will also learn some major Musical Instruments and at the end of the whole exercise, they come up with a performance to show the public and their parents what they've learnt. The fee is 10,000 Naira for each child.

Mummy, I know you love me very much and you want to do anything to make me know that. What you need to do now is to ensure Daddy agrees that you send me to the Summer Camp, So that I can be happy, learn new skills and be away from Sikira for some time

They say it will start on 15th and will be on till 30th Aug, 2014 from 9.00am to 3.00pm daily and they want to hold it at NUSTREAMS CONFERENCE AND CULTURE CENTRE KM 110 IYANGANKU ROAD, OPPOSITE ALALUBOSA ESTATE, GRA EXTENSION, IBADAN, OYO STATE.

Mummy, I even added their picture so you can get all the details that contains who to call and how to pay.

I really want to be there with my other classmates.

Mum, please do this for me.I love you, daddy and mummy.

Thank you

Your Son,

Olusegun

GET RID OF FRUIT BATS IN YOUR AREA Fruit Bats have been associated with the spread of EBOLA

GET RID OF FRUIT BATS IN YOUR AREA

Fruit Bats have been associated with the spread of EBOLA              

Many Nigerians Can Identify a Monkey if they see one...maybe not a Fruit Bat. These duo have been identified as carriers of the EBOLA Virus that has not only taken lives, is still threatening more all over the world. We are already feeling it economically as the price of Salt rose overnight, hand sanitizers had gone both expensive and scarce and may be more items in the process of this survival tussle.

Fruit Bats are scattered all over the world...

This includes your area. So read this and share with others.

*Fruit Bats are found all over the world. They live around water, prefer dark spots,tree tops, forest and warm areas.

*They have sharp teeth, long tongue which unrolls when they are eating and is tucked into the rib cage when idle.

*Its wings are often adapted to the natural environment they are surviving in. Not just only for flying, they use it to wrap themselves when it is cold.

*Fruit Bats reproduce after carrying baby for 6 months and new born starts to fly after 6weeks.

*Fruit bats would rather eat insects, but with regular absence of insects, they go for fruits and more fruits.

*They don't consume the entire fruit, they dig into the fruit and eat only the nectar. So fruit might look untouched from an angle.               

*A lot of them live around fruity trees planted by men, hence they are often consumed by house cats, hawks and snakes.

*They can invade your roofs, tree tops, small gardens with dark areas.

Now associated with Ebola, spare not any bat...

*Call a professional exterminator to chase the Bat Colony off your area before you consume fruits they already have romanced.

Paraphrased by Bonded Home for Family Health. 

See www.batworlds.com/fruit-bat/ for more on Fruit Bats

WOMEN HAVE BEEN ACCUSED OF SAYING YES WHEN THEY MEAN NO...

Where ever you go...

Where ever you may be

Do not say yes

When you mean to say No

Say No.

Do you remember this song? It was widely sung in Nigerian primary schools a decade ago. I am not sure it will still be in use now. They now sing sophisticated "ajebutter" kind of songs. As simple as the lyrics appear, they teach very deep philosophy of being wise and sincere about one's expression and reaction considering its effects on everyone.

Julian writes..."I don't understand my wife anymore...or let me just say, I don't understand women. My wife expects me to read her mind and just magically know what she intends saying without uttering a word which in most cases, she would say YES when she means NO.

Recently, my younger brother proposed coming to spend their long break with us...I told my wife about it. These were my exact word "Honey, Ochuko and Afor would like to spend some time with us, what do you think?" And she responds "Why not".              

 
Please isn't that an express and emphatic YES?

After a "Yes" from my wife, I simply told them to come whenever they wanted. For the past 2 weeks that they have been in the house, my wife has gone cold to everyone...including me.   I don't need any soothsayer to tell me, it had to do with the arrival of my siblings...she isn't quarreling but she is not talking...I put one and two together and decided to have a word with her. "Honey, is there any problem? Please talk to me. You have been very quiet and I am worried"

"Let everybody just leave me alone in this house..."

"What's the matter?" "Did you talk with me before bringing your siblings to the house? If it were my siblings, I know how long it would take me to convince you" she screamed. I was shocked. "But I told you and you said "Why not" "Is "why not" same thing as YES or ITS OKAY? She hammered... "Please, let everyone leave me alone. Have I not been doing what I should do?" She asked.

By morning, I called my siblings, gave them some good money...good enough to make them not feel I was asking them out of my house and I told them to leave.

My wife takes a new defensive turn..."Why would you ask them to leave, so they can say I am the one turning you against them? Please don't spoil my name o, Julian don't make me devil among your people o, I am begging you".                          I was really confused. What was the cure for her anger when she claimed I didn't consult her before allowing them to come..."Is it not to send them out"?

I had to ask a friend if his wife does same...he confirmed in the affirmative and said my wife tried when she said "Why not" that meant "no". That his wife would say a loud "No, that means Yes" He told me how he asked his wife if she would want a change of car, judging from the fact that her car was now very old and is giving so much trouble...and his wife answered with a Straight Face, "NO". He decided not to push it and used the money to finance surgery for his mother abroad...

One day, he got back from work and his wife was not home yet her car was parked at the garage. She came home very late, looking angry and tired. He asked her what happened and she began..."Don't ask me, you want me to go around in public transport...I have started it, hope you are happy now"...this was a woman he asked if she wanted a change of car...and got a NO response. Now she is implying that her husband is not caring enough...

@bondbetter, I think this is a character that women are really guilty of...Please let them help us out. We need to know when yes means yes and no means no and when yes means no and no means yes. You see how confusing these look?

Julian has said it all, please enlighten us.

6 YEARS OLD GIRL SAYS TO UNCLE " SHOW ME YOUR WINKI" PARENTS PLEASE WATCH OUT

I visited a family friend over the week-end (the Johnsons) but did not exactly meet them indoors… they told me to hold on for some minutes, that they were having a meeting with their landlord. While I waited,  his beautiful six years old daughter and I got talking… ladies and gentlemen…it was a talk I think I should speak to my friend about or may be not. Help me decide the best way to approach this.

 

As I sat watching the annoying and heart-breaking Isreali-Gaza barraging… and Ebola Dilemma, the girlie just came to me and said, Uncle, let me see your “winki”, (For those who are not familiar with the word, winki is a pet-word, a euphemistic way of referring to “Penis”) her hands were already on my “garage”.(if you know what I mean) I fumed and didn’t know if I should hit her or what? Then I spoke firmly with a very angry face. “ Don’t you ever say or do that again, next time you try such a thing, I will deal with you thoroughly” She said “I am sorry uncle”…acted cold and remorseful for a second and like a system reboot, she asked again, “but why don’t you want to show me your “winki”?...

 

At this point, I figured there was real problem. This child must have seen someone’s “winki” somewhere; considering that she asked with great confidence as if my refusal was being unfriendly to a child. “Show me naa uncle”, she continued and tried reaching for it again. I pushed her off and asked her…”Quincy, has anyone ever showed you their wiiii wwinki?

“Yes, but I won’t tell you., but he said I should not tell any body...” she responded

“Who is the person?” I shouted at the top of my voice with anger…”Who? Tell me, I won’t tell anybody” I assured her.

“I don’t want you to tell anybody, my daddy or mummy” she continued.

“I promise, I will not tell anyone”, tell me, tell me….

“Okay, but show me first before I tell you” she tried bargaining…I got really angry but I was keen on getting more facts…possibly know what exactly is happening to my friend’s daughter…is she being sexually abused? and by who?

While we bargained, the child ran out of the sitting room, possibly distracted by something... I picked up a photo album and started flipping through...(Knowing she would soon be back) Quincy returns and says "He is here.., pointing at the photo album, he is inside the picture'" my head ran wild.....Could it be someone really close?, a family friend or one of the Johnson's? Hmmm.

 

The girl jumped and pointed Johnson's cousin brother who stays with them. "Uncle, see uncle Ramz, he use to show me his winki, but he said I should not tell anybody, now I have told you" It was both confusing and annoying.. Then I asked her, does he just show it to you? Or... She couldn't answer me before she got distracted.... And her parents step in…

 

Just then my dilemma began…I remained in shock at how Ramsey who has been under Johnson’s roof for years would go mad enough to start molesting his daughter… Ramsey is simply a misfit for the society if all these I just experienced were true… I pity Johnson, I pity his wife more and the little girl, the most.

 

Should I just spill it out to the couple?

Carry out an investigation?

Confront Ramsey?

Ask them if they already started Sex-educating their daughter…if they have, isn't she too young at age six?

If they haven't, what in this whole wild world are they waiting for?

 

The ???? ran on…