BREAD WINNING… Not just Winning Bread
I work with a telecoms servicing company and to be sincere, I am not
satisfied with what I take home. My take home pay, like that of most workers in
the private sector is not enough to take me home.. If you ask me, I would say I
bleed for every kobo that comes into my wallet. I don’t have the opportunity to
add more zeros either by ommission or commission. If you understand what I mean.
My wife, Suzan works in a bank and as God pleases, she earns far more than I
can ever get even if I become a Manager at my office.
To the glory of God, I am very
happy about that...You think I am kidding?...well I am not. I am really cool
with it.
Suzan and I decided to share the financial commitments of our home. A feat I consider legendary...My
salary proved sufficient only for the payment of the children's school fees and
some petty miscellenous spendings that had to do with the children. We have two lovely daughters. We decided
that Suzy would take care of the kitchen, fuel the cars and sort her upkeep.(This
arrangement was reached mutually and bearing in mind, the ratio of her salary to
mine)
The plan had remained successful until my company had a major set-back
and salaries were not paid that month...the next and then, the next... We are
still being owed.. This harsh time at
work coincided with when our childrens’ school fees should hit the schools’
account. I couldn't cough out the
money. I did everything possible, I even tried to borrow money but no one was
willing to offer me a dime.
I had to fall back to my wife. I knew that would be some trouble. Before
I even started my plea, she goes, "why haven't you paid the childrens' fees?” “How
would I be able to pay when my salary has not been paid for three months?” I
asked "Well, you really have to find a way to sort that out because I did
not make plans for their school fees...that's about the only thing you cater
for and you still cannot see to it” She lashed out... "Honey I am sorry
but right now, we need the kids back in school, lets resolve this issue first
before you blame me, please let's use some of your money" I tried to persuade.
“My what? Am I not doing enough?…don’t be unfair…please do whatever you
need to do and get them back to school. I could assist, but I don’t have that
covered in my budget and you know it” she fumed. “Suzy, are you going to watch the children
stay at home because of money?” "Lawrence"…she called me really sternly…she
usually says “Law”. Lawrence.. this is the only thing you do in this house..
please get it done”
Desperate times call for desperate measures so I decided to sell our
laptop and my Z10 to save the situation. These are items that can fetch me money almost immediately and I can also replace them without much hassles “Let me use you for the last time” I said
to the laptop. I turned it on and went online. I wished I sold it without turning
it on. Suzy’s email was logged on… and I saw payment confirmations of
transactions she made right after our conversation…a night ago...the online shops sent her
mails on payment and delivery details…I was shattered. She bought expensive
shoes, bags, weave-on, perfumes, office suits and gowns and they amount twice above what was
required for our children's school fees… I never really checked how much she purchased her
stuff as it was directly from her purse…should I have been poking my nose in that actually?
I am angry… I don’t know what to do. Am I at fault in any way? Please tell
me before I go off the road…
Hahahahahhaaaa
ReplyDeleteDis is serious,suzzy is selfish n callous,marriage is meant to b 4 BETA 4 WORST,n am telling u,most women r bread winners in der homes n dey don't rise an elbow about it, she is even doing it @ d detriment of her children's future. Lawrence I would advice u step up ur game n rise up 2 d occasion as d man of d hus,am sure dis is just an ice-berg,der is still more 2 come........
ReplyDeleteAzzizat Akanji
Quite correct the desire of the wife will come from the husband"and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee." but the wife need to show some understanding as in the case of susy n law. After the fall of man in the garden of Eden, it became obvious that things change from what it suppose to be,that is why,the man king Solomon talked about a virtuous woman this way"Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants 'ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
ReplyDeleteHer husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her."
@tIMMIE, HOw convenient. it is very easy to blame a woman who doesn't submit her money with out in any way mentioning the man who has failed in his duty and has become worse than an infidel...
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Agatha Uwana
@ Uwana not to be labour the issue but the case senerio is different from Law being an infidel, he is doing his best hoping that suzy will compliment his effort,remember it could also be the other way round
Delete@ Uwana not to be labour the issue but the case senerio is different from Law being an infidel, he is doing his best hoping that suzy will compliment his effort,remember it could also be the other way round
DeleteAgather, if you read the story very well, you'll find out that this guy didn't say that he doesn't do anything to provide for the home. But he's being owed by his company and at such, is unable to meet up with his responsibilities at the moment. Which can happen to anyone, including Suzzy. However, this is just one side of the coin. I guess something is fundamentally wrong in that home and I'll blame it on the man. This issue can only be handled from it's root. If not, it'll keep knocking. This lady can't just act this way even towards her own children.
ReplyDeleteHmmm,women of real virtue are so far fetched in our time. What else should be the joy of a mother if not the happiness of her children. Brother if she can trade the future of her children for clothes then you need to question and re-check her commitment to that marriage. On the other hand I have a question for you,do u think she believes you are being totally honest to her about your salary and financial strength. If she is having doubts is possible she thinks you can source the fees and that could be the reason for her actions. Finally how close are you to your wife??? Sirechimex
ReplyDeleteGuess you are quite right,yes trust,if there is trust she won't doubt her husband telling her about his situation, take note Lawrence has kept her updated and she knew the pay difference before hand
DeleteGuess you are quite right,yes trust,if there is trust she won't doubt her husband telling her about his situation, take note Lawrence has kept her updated and she knew the pay difference before hand
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